My fiance and I finally sat down and talked about setting a date, I mentioned September of 2007. He didn't seem to mind. Well as of yesterday he says we probably won't be married by Christmas of next year. I feel like I'm getting the run around because I can't exactly plan a wedding if the date isn't set for sure. I'm afraid to start ordering things with dates on them because he will change his mind again. What should I do?
2006-12-28 07:16:50 · 8 answers · asked by Emily M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Good 'ol Dr. Laura used to say that you aren't really engaged until you had a ring and a date. If he won't set a date then, as hard as it will be, tell him to come find you when he will set one. If you are still free then.....well maybe! AND MEAN IT!
2006-12-28 09:49:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mari N 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did he give a good reason why he didn't want that date?
I think you both should agree on a date. Don't pressure him to decide. Don't order stuff with dates on them yet.
How long have you been engaged? Enjoy the engagement for a while! Take time to set a date!
Congrats!
2006-12-28 14:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he truly wants to get married. If he says yes then tell him that you guys need to set a concrete date so that you guys can start planning and purchasing stuff because you can't do anything without a date first.
2006-12-28 07:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Lori J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is too early to order things with the dates on them, anyhow. I mean, is that *really* your reason?
You need to compromise on setting a date together. If you can't agree on this, how will you make all other decisions in your future together?
Don't jump the gun.
2006-12-28 09:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be in a rush me and my fiance got engaged may of 2006 and we have set about 6 dates lol and still we have no idea when we are getting married... i just told him that the long we wait the more lavish it better be lol
2006-12-28 10:09:45 · answer #5 · answered by Miya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's having reservations of not getting married. You need to discuss it. Once he's on board then things will fall into place. Perhaps he doesnt want to be the center of attention and wants to elope. Compromise and Communicate!
2006-12-28 09:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's time to pick a date and stick to it - you need to know for sure before you do anything else. If he is hesitant and leary, consider postponing the wedding - and also take time to think about the relationship. It sounds like he's stalling because he's afraid.
2006-12-28 07:31:34 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you need to have a really difficult conversation with your fiancee. You need to find out if he really wants to get married.
2006-12-28 08:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by AmyB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋