I'm very shy, So i cant just go up to him and ask him out! I'm 14, and he is like to most perfect guy ever! hes my height, hes skinny like me, hes just sooooo hot!!! How can i get him to ask me out witout noing him to well?! Help me plezzzz!
2006-12-28 07:13:59 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, this should help....try to read all :)
Be in the right place. It's best to ask someone out in person, so you've got to make sure to be where the guy you have a crush on is. This could be at the mall, the movies, or maybe at the baseball field if he's an athlete. You don't want to look like a stalker, but you do want to be able to talk to him.
Take the intiative. Unfortunately, many guys are too afraid to walk up to a girl and ask her out. Take matters into your own hands. Walk up to him slowly and introduce yourself. Try not to do this if he's extremely busy, but at the same time, don't let the opportunity to talk to him pass you by just because you're nervous. If he seems receptive when you introduce yourself, keep on talking to him.
Make small talk with him. Break the ice by commenting on something he's wearing or saying something about the place or event you're at. Just try to get him to feel comfortable around you.
Make eye contact with him. While the two of you are talking, make eye contact and try to hold it for just a little longer than you normally would--just two or three seconds. If he makes eye contact back, he's probably interested in you. Make sure he's not looking at you because you're doing something extremely weird or because he is the cashier.
Commence flirting. This can mean touching him lightly on the arm, for example, or laughing at his jokes. Just be playful and communicate that you're interested. Sometimes you can flirt from afar and entice him to come over to you.
Ask him non-intrusive questions about himself, such as what kinds of things he likes to do, what his favorite kind of food is, or if he likes to play sports. By asking harmless little questions you can find out more about him to determine if you really want to ask him out, and you might find out if he has a girlfriend. You can also set the conversation up to ask him out.
Ask him out. Once you find something you both have in common, ask if he'd like to do it together sometime. If you don't succeed in finding something you have in common, you might not really find him that interesting, but if you want to take a chance, just let him know that you'd like to hang out with him again.
If he says no, or if he seems like he needs more time, don't get too upset; always say you can just be friends if that's what he wants. Chances are, he'll change his mind. Guys do this a lot. Whatever you do, don't trash him to others; it makes you look bad.
If he says yes, then plan where and when you will go out, and don't forget to have fun. Since you asked, you should pay for the date, unless he insists.
2006-12-28 07:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Boss 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just cause you think he's "soooooo hot" is not a good enough reason to ask a guy out. Become his friend first so you can find out what kind of FRIEND he is first, because that will tell you a whole lot about how he will be as a partner. Besides, you're too young in my opinion.
2006-12-28 15:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a guy it is nice if a girl asks me out. So have somewhere in mind (not the cinema) walk up to him when he has no one with him and ask him out. the worst thing that can happen is that he says no. Devastating I know but you will survive. Look on the positive you might start a beautiful friendship. Good luck
2006-12-28 15:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by peter w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't know him too well? That makes things a little harder.find out who DOES. If you like the type he hangs out with
its a better clue than he's just cute.Ask around to see if he has a girlfriend,someplace. If not ....be in all the right places...and you already know where that is... (I was 14 once too ya know LOL)
....and for heaven sakes don't tell him you think he is skinny. That would be like him saying you are flat and he likes flat girls. I am not saying you are by any means but you see how
it would hurt his feelings? let us all know how that went...!
2006-12-28 15:30:22 · answer #4 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, I have a lot of experience dealing with stuff like this. Well, first maybe you want to take it slow if you don't know him? Get to know him, see if you have any classes in common or do something so that he'll notice you. Maybe you could get some of your friends to hint that you guys would be really good together or you could start hanging out with some of his friends and give them a hint on it. You could even try asking him out or getting a friend to tell him to ask you out sometime. After you really get to know him give him LOTS of opportunities to ask you out, (i.e. without your friends around) soo..have fun! lol be sure to comment on how it ends out!
2006-12-28 15:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by Besch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though guys like it when girls ask them directly, you don't have to do that. There are two other options...
1) Write him a note, that way if you get rejected only you and him will know.
2) Tell your friend or one of his friends to ask if he likes you and if he does then ask him out.
Since you said you don't know him too well you should just try talking to him first to make sure you really like him.
Good Luck!
2006-12-28 15:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by amddma123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woooooooooooooooow. You're asking for too much. Different people require different approaches. Even if he is shy maybe he isn't really. It may not make sense but you have to know what he is REALLY like and build on that. If he really is shy, then wy not trying to be his friend first? Good luck. Take care. ;)
2006-12-28 15:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by foofoo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I say do something fun, but just not asking him to his face, send him on a scavenger hunt or something to get the details of who is asking him out, keep it anonymous as long as you can, have some fun with it, if you need more ideas, let me know. I was asked out that way around your age, and it was so much fun:)
2006-12-28 15:16:29 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, if you are so shy try this: Write your name, and phone number on a pretty stationery paper (plain paper is fine too). And ask him out on a date. Something like this: " Hi my name is ________ . Im shy to to verbally ask you out, so here I am asking you this way. Would you like to go out on a date with me? Call me and let me know, thanks" You can give it to him in an envelope. I hope this works out for you, take care.
2006-12-28 15:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by i_shout_plz_care_4_each_other 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find something you both have in common and work on it. I myself am the same way and when i got my boyfriend i worked on the topic of Freakazoid and about 2 weeks of talking and joking he asked me out. So i say get him to try and ask you out. good luck
2006-12-28 15:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mimzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋