The guy I've been seeing for the passed 10 years has alwys taken a liking to other girls. But only sleeps with them. He says he still loves me and comes over to my place EVERY night. He says they mean nothing to him but is still seeing them. I'm not worried about STD'S and all. He always has protection. I just don't know if I can go on with him sleepin aroung but at the end of the day he is with me. I do love him. will do anything for him. I feel so confused. What should i do???????
2006-12-28 06:57:46 · 15 answers · asked by Viaa 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you should stay with him - remember he is a man and you are just a woman
2006-12-28 07:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a typical case of emotional codependency and self esteem lack...the fact that this has been going on for so long has molded into a comfort zone that you are not willing to leave Yes you may love him but honestly girl if he loved you that much he would not be seeing other women... Men love fast food because they know that at the end of the day the main course is always waiting at home...he know you will always be there no matter what he does.. I mean you've been there 10 yrs!
Love yourself a little and dump him..yes it's hard..especially after all this time but it's time to let go of someone who doesn't respect or give you your place...
Heal yourself and forget about that loser...
No woman should ever need a man to be content...It's time to let go.
Good Luck and hugs to you :)
2006-12-28 15:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by red_klinik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Sigh*
Why do we as women accept this behavior? Do you think you that if you were out sleeping with every Rick, Dave, and Kevin but you still loved him and came home to him, that he would think this is okay?
You know he wouldn't. So how is he able? If I were a man and had a woman that allowed me to bed with her at night yet I can screw anything with her knowledge/ and approval...why would I change.
If you think this is cool you need to do a self-inventory of what you expect out of a relationship.
This all just sounds sloppy. I doubt if he is using protection every single time for 10 YEARS!!! Protect yourself, and get from underneath such a blatant jerk.
2006-12-28 15:02:25 · answer #3 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, Thats a tough situation. Honestly, I think you should give him up. If those other girls didn't mean anything to him, he wouldn't sleep with them. You are better than that and you don't deserve to be taken advantage of. If he really loved you, He wouldn't be with other girls. And as long as you are with him, You won't find the person you are ment to be with. Girl, do somethin for yourself and find the man that will treat you the way you should be treated!!!
2006-12-28 15:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by JOJO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry if this is harsh but dump him and NOW! Condoms do not protect you from STDs. Are you supporting him financially as well? How is he able to be out all day with other women? You deserve to be loved and treated with respect.
2006-12-28 15:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by vonhartleben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be confused i think and don't shot the messages, that's he using u, like his using the other girls. how can u respect a man how sleeps with other girls?
If he loves u, u would be a noth for him. tell him its u and only u or he's out if he truly loves u he drop the lovers and only sleep with u. if u get the other response than he is not worth it drop him and move on, find someone who will love u and only u.
2006-12-28 15:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seemes like your another one of those girls. All the others problably know and he says they love him. I say after tonight when he leaves dumps him.
My friends says:
so let me get this straight he sleeps around with other girls but by the end of the day he goes with you and you stay with him? Wtf. talk and he should take into concideration that if he really loves you he wouldnt want to hurt you by sleeping around with other girls i mean for all you know he could be saying i love u to the other girls and your just one of those girls
2006-12-28 15:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by hottierecy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue to be a BUTTY call like you have been for the past 10 years, or you can have some sense and go on with your life without this loser.
2006-12-28 15:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m sorry love .... but you need to get rid of him, he`s using you.
You may be in love with him, but in the end it`ll be you who will get hurt. It`s best if you leave him and start anew, It`ll hurt like hell for a long time but in the end it`s for the best.
If you so stay .... then remember that he will end up breaking your heart.
2006-12-28 15:02:46 · answer #9 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be WORRIED about STD's because condoms don't protect you 100% from getting an STD or HIV! Educate yourself!
2006-12-28 15:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to be with a guy that sleeps around wether or not they mean anything to him or not. That's gross. He really need to stop doing that and straight up. You deserve something better. Don't have sex with him or even date him. He has a serouis problem and you don't need to be involved with a guy like that.
2006-12-28 15:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋