We both like each other, we have said that we have feelings for one another, we have even madeout. But i think the guy does not want to ruin the friendship, so he says he does not want to date. He says it is because he would be my first boyfriend and he thinks that he is not what i would want in a guy. yet I have told him I want to be in a relationship with him. This guy is so sweet, a gentleman. Everytime that we hang out, we do things that people who date or are in relationships do. So, does anyone have any ideas about how i can deal with being his friend for right now.(Note: both people are in there 20's, guy is 4 years older)
2006-12-28 06:52:59 · 13 answers · asked by shakespearestalker87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How to deal? I have found that letting go and not pursuing outings with interests who don't have an 'interest' in me is less heart wrenching. I had a friend that I wanted a relationship with, but he didn't want to reciprocate. It was difficult at first, and I thought that I would never find someone that would mutually love me as much as I had loved my friend.
Fortunately, I was wrong. I kept looking and the big G and the fates helped me find my wild-heart! Have faith and hope--and I pray that you find someone where you both fall head-over-heels for each other. It is great when that happens. I pray that my situation continues;-)
2006-12-28 07:05:08 · answer #1 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been friends with a guy for over 8 yrs now,we had a fling but we both wanted different things in a relationship. We are now to this day each others BEST FRIEND and i wouldnt trade it for the world. He is the one thats there for me when i need it. Just dont push a relationship with him it could ruin your friendship.
2006-12-28 06:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by melissas69er 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably right... Barely anyone can still be as close friends once they've broken up... If you act as if you're going out together- isn't that good enough? Just because he doesn't "declare" you're a couple. And if he doesn't want to be in a relationship it probably isn't anything to do with you but with himself. He must care about you a lot before he cares about wrecking your relationship as friends.
2006-12-28 06:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by l04i16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. This is definitely a tough one. I know a friend, who really likes this girl, but they continue to be friends. I can sometimes see how painful it is for him to not be able to be closer to her than he already is. As a believer of true love, I think you should just explain your feelings to him, and establish that it is difficult for you to lead in such a manner. This is certainly a fragile situation. If he doesn't want to be in a relationship now, then remain friends.
2006-12-28 07:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this guy Nathan and me were the best of friends we called each other every day and we talked but then I got a bf and my bf got jealous so we broke up and me and Nate tried datin we did 4 about a month but I was scared to call him cuz he might break up ith me but in the end he still friends but he's still cute.
2006-12-28 06:57:32 · answer #5 · answered by BigBallerGurl2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally know what your going through, I'm in that situation right now. Just wait for him to be ready to take the plunge. Remember, friends are better than boyfriends or girlfriends.
2006-12-28 07:03:01 · answer #6 · answered by Forever_&_Always 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm ..if you're doing things together like b/f and g/f, then I think that's what you two are. You can't take feelings back. If he does like you for more than a friend but doesn't feel like he's best for you. He's probably right. Afterall, he knows himself better than you do. Stick to being friends AND NO BENEFITS.
2006-12-28 06:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been friends for 10yrs, with a guy that I wanted a relationship with. I eventually decided that we were better off as friends, and continued life.
2006-12-28 06:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm to uncertain how old you're, yet do no longer enable him sustain this tension, some adult males think of that in the event that they keep putting tension on somebody they're going to at last fold. you could would desire to thoroughly develop into self sufficient from from him if he persists, and tell him that, sturdy success
2016-12-18 20:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same happened to me but we are not friends now and I wish we were at least u can see him and get to know him better
2006-12-28 06:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋