I am not a big fan of asking guys out (I'm a bit old fashioned), but every guy seems to be too intimidated to ask me out or even approach me. So I have started taking the first step (or at least trying). There is a guy in my building that I see here and there, but for some reason when I am actually prepared with my card I don't see him and when I have nothing he pops up out of the wood work. I have talked to him here and there in passing and we have exchanged looks (lingering looks) here and there as well. I have no clue what his name is though. I intend to go up to him (next time I am armed with my card) and say hey my name is Erin and I haven't actually introduced myself....(wait for his name) and say well here's my number if you want to go out for drinks or coffee sometime give me a call! Do you think that is effective enough? Will it work? I am so lost cause I don't do this ever. I am nervous as well. I just don't know if he will be receptive....since he has made an actual move yet
2006-12-28 06:52:43 · 30 answers · asked by Erin B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-28 06:58:14 · update #1
FYI the building is the one I work in......so I don't have a listing for his name or anything like that.....but he works here different office. So I see him when we happen to pass in the lobby, elevator,garage or deli.
2006-12-28 07:06:30 · update #2
I keep adding things because I am getting some crazy responses....I am pretty sure he isn't married..trust me I check for the signs.....he is young and I am pretty sure he has no kids.......
2006-12-28 07:10:34 · update #3
I am a guy and I would love for that to happen to me. That is awesome. Congratulations on making the first move even though you say you are a bit old fashioned. Guys love being noticed just like girls do.
2006-12-28 06:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Rick R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would work for me. I certainly would think you were interested. Of course, you may want to add "I'm not sure if you are seeing anyone at the moment, but if you are available, here's my number..."
You don't know if he already has a girlfriend (boyfriend?) and don't want to cause any friction there or an embarassing situation.
Also, if you only see him in passing and don't even know his name, then it may be helpful to try and find out a bit more about him before approaching him. (Lives on same floor? Lives with someone? What his name is from the lobby directory?)
2006-12-28 06:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by SteveN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do not come on too strong and eager. He may be the shy type and you might turn him off.
Find a silly or funny way to break the ice with him.
Give him a " do you work in the building"
"are you going to ever ask me out to lunch"
Make it fun just incase he might be married or already involved ...this way it be so akward.
Good Luck!
You could also ask me out if all else fails ! :0)
2006-12-28 07:26:04 · answer #3 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow signs of a despritite woman... going up to him and giving him your MATH (im ghetto that means number to the ebonically challenged folks) like that not even good... how about this throw a party invite him see how he is first on that level, talk to him at the party or what ever get to know him better who knows he might have a girl already take him outside one on one away from the crowd and really see how he is dont be so quick to make the first move get comfortable first then when you feel okay with you know asking him something like "what are you doing tomorrow night" or something like that leave it open for answers men are simple cretures and we are not hard to please but most men like to make the dessions and if you say "lets go for coffee" yeah dession gone... and dont ask the man to go out to lunch bad news you go to lunch with your friend... if you do get the chance to go out with him plan something for the night or evening...
2006-12-28 07:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by Godson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't bad. You must introduce yourself. Especially if you ran into him a couple of time already. Apologize for being rude then say would you like to go out for coffee or a drink sometime and see what he says. I hope he isn't attached already. Good luck!
2006-12-28 06:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe if you talk with him for a little while about the weather , etc (smalltalk) that would loosen him up a little. Then simply write your number down and pass it to him saying "I've got to run now, but I'd love to continue the conversation..."
2006-12-28 06:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. You have your plan worked out, all you need is a little courage. Try it and see what happens. You'll find out if it works only by trying, and once you're done asking him, you'll seem a lot more relieved.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 06:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by i6am6satan6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little straight forward, but it could work. A little more small talk would probably be advised before handing him you card, other than that, what is the worst that can happen?
2006-12-28 06:57:25 · answer #8 · answered by Mr 51 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be flattered if someone asked me out like that. Usually I have to do all the asking which is nerve racking. He may be shocked but I am pretty sure that will work.
2006-12-28 06:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by detfan12_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but it sounds like a fool-proof plan. And way to go with making the first move, not all girls can be as gutsy as you!
Kudos and Good luck!
2006-12-28 06:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋