My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I really like him so it's been rough trying to get past it. But it's become increasingly difficult now that he wants to be friends. We talked last night and he was mentioning that he wanted to hang out and go get coffee or go bowling next week like we used to. I told him that I was hesistant about the idea and he asked why. Then at the end of our convo he called me by the pet name that he used for me when we were going out. I called him by his name and he asked me why I didn't call him by the nickname I had for him. Huh?!? I don't want to be one of those girls he just "hangs out" with because he means so much more to me than that. I don't want to end what we have left but it's just awkward being friends with someone who knows so much about you and has seen everything...emotionally and physically...that you have to offer.
Advice?
2006-12-28 06:52:21 · 4 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he does this with all his exes. they'll break up, he'll take a couple of days to chill and then try become friends with him. i have 2 friends that dated him before and that is what he's done to them. it kinda comes off as being naive...and i don't want to be the naive girl.
2006-12-28 06:57:37 · update #1
he said he had doubts about our relationship and that our ethics are too different. that's why we broke up.
2006-12-28 07:39:15 · update #2
aw poor thing....hes trying so hard to be the nice guy,and just use you PART way.
KICK ROMEO TO THE CURB. and I hope you find someone who wants to be into you all the way.
YOU BE THINKING ABOUT WHO ELSE YOU LIKE NOW!! HAVE FUN!!
2006-12-28 07:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by to tell ya the truth........... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful. Being friends with someone you romantically care for, when the feelings are not receptive is dangerous. You are in danger of getting hurt. I'm a true believer that you can be "just friends" with someone you used to date... ONLY if you truly do NOT have any more romantic feelings for the individual, and that has to be MUTUAL. If you know that you can not hang out with him without reminiscing about how your relationship was, or hoping that one day you two will be a couple again ... to put it simple, you are not ready to hang out with him yet. What will end up happening is that you will make yourself available for him at his request, and eventually you will become his "friend with benefits". This will temporarily suit you because for that moment you will have him back in your life romantically, until the time comes when you begin to feel used, and demand an overdue commitment. Sooner or later it could turn into a disaster, possibly resulting in a lot of feelings, and emotions being destroyed. Do not play this game unless you are mentally, and emotionally prepared to possibly lose.
2006-12-28 07:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Queryous 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you didnt say why you and he broke up. you have to make a choice here. you will get to the point where it is just to hard to stay friends, so i think you need to bite the bullet and just tell him your feelings. maybe he is feeling the same way, maybe he is trying to get it back together, but isnt sure how you feel. maybe in time, if he still wants to be just friends, you can do that. but, it is still too fresh of a wound. but you have to be ready to deal with the possiblity that it might end the situation you have with him now.
i feel for you, i know it is hard, but, you need to clear the air.
i wish you the best..
2006-12-28 07:00:35 · answer #3 · answered by darlin12009 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are broken up, it is too hard to be friends. Just being friends will open the door for more heartake. Start hanging out with your girlfriends, they will take care of you.
2006-12-28 07:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋