He broke up with me 2 weeks ago during his finals week. He said it's stressful and our relationship is partly responsible for that b/c i'm a little high maintenance by calling him too much(2-3 times a day.) At that time i suspected he didnt do very well at school(he's a senior in college) since he said things are tough. But i never knew things were this tough until this morning i login to his email account and found that he got an email from the registrar telling him his academic records are below the university's standard and tell him to contact them asap! So now i began to understand him a bit more and didnt blame that much for not being strong in our relationship. And since he's that kind of person that keeps these bad things from me, probably b/c he doesnt wanna show he's a "loser", i dont really know what to do. Do you think this is the most direct reason he broke up with me b/c things are this tough? And what can i do to help him? We havent talked for 2 weeks. Please advise,thanx
2006-12-28 06:48:49 · 13 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That was just an excuse he used to make the breakup easier for you to take. You obviously are clingy and demanding. You harass him by phone multiple times a day and you break into his email account and share his personal business on-line with the world. LEAVE THAT BOY ALONE and move on with your life. Also learn from this and don't harass the next man a way with constant needy phone calls and invasions of their privacy.
2006-12-28 06:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by WriterChic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gee, he only spent 4 years working towards a degree, spent about $20,000 a year or more, and aspires to better himself. Yeah, sacrificing all of that for a relationship seems a logical. For now, just give him his space. I mean, provided this is his first academic drop, he may have a chance to recover. This is important to him, this is his future. If he crashes and burns here, then starting over, and going another 4 years to get the same degree isn't going to look good on his applications. Learn to be a bit more self-reliant. Yes, it's hard when you're missing them, but you learn to be more understanding. Occupy your time. Do you go school, then make that your focus. Do you work? Then make that your focus. Got friends? Rely on them for some of this maintenance. As I said, give him some time and space, to work on the problems. Although, you can ask if you can help, but don't be surprised if he says no. It's a pride thing sometimes.
Neurotically Yours,
NightSpawn
2006-12-28 14:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by the_nightspawn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is he didn't know how to handle the stress and pressure of everything so he let you go. Maybe when finals are done and things calm down he will want to get back together with you. Maybe drop him an email and tell him that you are around for him when things settle down and that he should give you a call when they do so you can figure things out.
2006-12-28 15:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you just have to believe that he is giving you the direct reason.
It may sound tough for you to hear this, but it seems as if he has moved on with his life. I do not think he really wants your help if he has not tried to contact you in two weeks. Leave him alone, and just move on with your life. Do not call him, but if he calls you then that means he misses you. It is hard to do, but you have to do that, if only for your self-respect.
The next time, just lay off on all the phone calls, and be a little more independent. (That doesn't mean dating around when you have an exclusive relationship) It just means have other priorities you do independent of the one you are with.
2006-12-28 15:06:20 · answer #4 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School is more important that a girl that goes 'wahh, whahh! I need all this attention because I'm insecure!' Just give him some space at the very least and let him succeed at life instead of dealing with your bullshit.
2006-12-28 15:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about that. But it sounds like he does need the time to study. And I think that he was embarrassed to tell you. Guy like to make it seam like they have everything under control even though that they are drowning. Once he gets his grades on track he'll be back around. I hope that he passes his classes.
2006-12-28 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it just sounds like hes really stressed and that he's just taking it out on what in the smallest thing. and he can't really blame the relationship for anything its up to him to keep himself in line with his school work. its not like you go over to his place ans distract him from doing his school work do you? anyway give him space he just sounds really stressed, just let him know that even though you guys aren't together anymore that you're still there form him if he needs anything.
2006-12-28 14:54:21 · answer #7 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably shouldn't have logged into his email account. If he found out, it could upset him. He was obviously making it clear to NOT tell you about that. Just let him focus on school.
2006-12-28 14:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were not very considerate of him while he was in the middle of his finals. If you could help him all well and good. If you were calling for the hell of it, than he doesn't need you. Better off without you.
2006-12-28 14:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait a little and after he resolves his problems cal him and try to work the things out.Good luck!
2006-12-28 14:52:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋