i lost my temper with my girlfriend and pulled her by her arm off the bed!?

Question

she accused me of not wanting her sexually. i pulled her off the bed by her arm and feel ashamed about it. i am a very mellow guy. we were both shocked. i want to make clear that after i did this we made up.

i don't what to think about this. i apologized but i feel remorse.
how should i think about it?

PLEASE NO JUDGEMENTS. I NEED ADVICE.

Answer 1

We all get angry. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just take the age old advice to make sure and stop and think before you act or speak. That saves a lot of hurt feelings, and body parts for that matter. You apologized. I think if I were you, I would promise that it would never happen again and make sure and keep that promise. But if it ever happens again, ya'll need to be separate. For you because you will probably need some counseling and for her because no woman needs to be in that position.

Answer 2

I am not trying to sound judgmental but you need either anger management or counseling. You say your a mellow guy but your actions show like wise. You obviously have some built up anger and you need professional help. Thank your lucky stars that your girlfriend made up with you because if it were me your butt would have spent the night in jail. A true man never lays a hand on lady......I'm sure most of the women beaters out there feels some sort of remorse for doing what they do, that doesn't make it right....get you some help!

Answer 3

was this your first time doing something like this?If you don't get a hold of yourself your going to do it again. The way you feel remorse in all, I believe you.But if you can't control want a other person is thinking and it bugs you, how can you be sure you won't do this again. You might have a problem.You need to really look into your past in find out were this came from.When a man starts hitting a women, it always starts off small. He sorry, she in shocked, because it never happen before,they make up. Just what you said. That's the norm, of a abuse relationship. That's how it starts. It's a cycle.I am telling you, you really need to look down deep inside your self. You need to start reading self-help books and listen to the Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger talk radio show on 640am 12noon-3pm Mon-Fri Southern CA time. If your not going to help yourself now. Your going to find yourself doing it again and maybe jail. And your going to be sorry again and she going to forgive you again, and your relationship is going to be in big trouble.Now do the right thing

Answer 4

Everybody does mistakes don't dwell on the past especially after you two already made up. Try to forgive yourself and learn from such mistake by not ever letting your temper get ahold of you. There's people out there in the world that do worse things and don't feel remorse, at least you know that what you did was wrong. Just try to focus on how the relationship can become better and not on the things that has made it bumpy! Good Luck

Answer 5

This can happen in the heat of the moment so i advise you to sit and ask her why she thinks the way she does and tell her its not her but you have somethings on your mind and you feel its wrong to burden her with them during the time you spend together. Let her know you love her and if possible designate an evening when you are less preoccupied and show her she isnt sexually repulsive to you,if you want buy her flowers do the romantic bit but talk to each other if she loves you she will understand and want to share anything bothering you

Answer 6

It is very good to hear that you are remorseful. You need to think long and hard about why you did what you did, how you feel about it, and what you're going to do to change it. You need to put your temper in check. After you think about it yourself, you need to have a conversation with your girlfriend about it. I'm sure you know that your behavior was inexcusable... and hopefully it will be a turning point for you. Don't ignore this sign. Good luck

Answer 7

First of all, remorse is good; it shows that you have a conscience. Second of all, go to her and apologize to her and show her how sorry you are about what you did. Since what you did was directed towards her, the only way that you will be able to move past what happened is that you know for a fact that she has moved past it. Once you know that she has moved past it, that means that you can let it go, too. I have felt remorse worse than you have in this situation, and unfortunately for me, mine has been for lesser reasons.

In short, just make sure that she has accepted what happened and moved past it. Once she has, that means that you can too. Good luck!

Answer 8

Flowers, Dinner, and all out pampering to start. Then you might want to see how she feels about it. If your a mellow guy, it is a bit scary for you to act like this. Get to the root of the problem and make sure it NEVER happens again. Best of luck.

Answer 9

Your going to feel that way for awhile and you should. Maybe this will open your eyes to what could of happened and you wont ever lay hands on another female in that manner.

Try to figure out what made you freak out over her comment, why it made you react that way. You seem to be genuine about not doing this again try learning why you did in the first place so it wont. Good Luck

Answer 10

You need to think about what made you do it. There has to be something other than what happened right then and there that was building up. Do you often act out of impulse - particularly in anger? If so, you may want to seek counseling. What you did was a violent act and you really need to sort out whatever it is that made you do it, before you do it again. I definitely wouldn't ignore it.