Difficult to explain. BUT - No matter how you meet a guy, through a friend, internet, bar, grocery store, or whatever... Why is it that on the first real date, they expect sex? You can meet for a drink, talk, and may have some things in common, yadda yadda yadda. As a woman I'd like to see if we can extend the date to dinner or at least see if there is the possibility of a second date. Then, BAM!!! here he comes wanting to kiss & the small little tail tail signs of "getting it on" starts coming out of his mouth! To me, this is a total turn off! What happened to Dating?
2006-12-28 06:22:53 · 4 answers · asked by T. 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
good question..but not so sure myself.
seriously, it's like you spend a couple of hours talking and then it's time for some time in between the sheets. not necessarily a bad thing, but then you're the ho if you do put out?? how does that work??
lately to me it seems like guys want a girl to put out on the first night..some of them are okay with continuiong to build past that and then others have this theory that you're a slut if you put out right away and they dont want to be with a slut..
well dude, you put out on the first date too..perhaps i don't wnat to be with a man-whore?? double standards are a *****..
but yeah, my thing is i'm kind of all about getting the sex stuff out of the way pretty early in a relationship if i'm interested b/c it really does break down a lot of barriers. i'm not necessarily saying the day you meet, but i'm not saying wait 2 years either.. just when the time is right for both of you..so you can get past the awkward sexual tension and get back to getting to know each other..i think dating is a lot different than it used to be..but i also think it's pretty much gone from lets have sex first and then date.. sounds like a good ride in the baby/std pool to me..
2006-12-28 06:36:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great thing of the past I suppose. Everyone is so demanding (excuse me a lot of people and not everyone), and just expect this to occur immediately. But soon enough hopefully you will find a true gentleman who is more interested in learning who you are and your interests etc. before you both decide that the time is right to become sexually active. My fiance and I have both said that if we were to have become sexually active immediately we would not be were we are now. I know it must sound strange coming from a make but I also agree with you regarding sex on the first or second date. These people are not looking for any type of relationship and think they are so bloody cool by having had another conquest (both sexes are equally guilty) and do not realize how this will affect them later on in life, especially young teens but some so called adults also. Keep the faith as some day your Knight will come along and he will treat you with the respect that far to many woman are seeking these days. Best of luck.
2006-12-28 14:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's our society. Look at our music, our movies, our television. Everything about our society glorifies sex. Would you expect anything less from a society where sex is glorified so much?
2006-12-28 14:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by NoName113 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very popular w/ the boys, I see!!!
What, do you think they want to go w/ you for the intellectually stimulating conversation????
Prepare for a lonely life................
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-12-28 14:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋