How do i deal with my boyfriends family bad mouthing me,theyre not the kind of people you can sit and talk to?

Question

Im 19 & i dont have a job,im trying to figure out where i want to go in a career,i plan on going to school in the medical field next year. About once a week i work at the family buisness so i do have some money to my name. I come from a good and well respected family also.My boyfriend of 2yr he does work at a hospital & brings home a decent amount of money ,he comes from a, hate to say it but trashy family though he's nothing like them.He buys me things here and there but i never ask him to buy me things,& when i have the money i pay him back but most of the time he dosnt let me.I dont know what to do because his whole family talks about me & says im a gold digger to other people because when he buys me things theyre usually pricey gifts.They talk about me to our friends and other family saying im a gold digger & i use him for the money. I love him for him and not for the money,they dont know me at all & i feel like they'll tear us apart as well as making me look bad to other people .

Answer 1

Dear victoria. For what you say, you love him and he loves you. the thing is, how much is he willing to sacrifice for you? Like moving a little farther from his family, getting married (only if there is LOVE), seing his family less, etc. Now, talk to him, and make sure he doesn't think you are what his family says. Other than that, don't spend too much of your time and energy on negative issues. and you never let them put you down, by this I mean don't let them make you feel like trash. You are a princess (ask your boyfriend, he would agree with me.)Be wise in your decisions. God Bless.

Answer 2

First off your B/F should say something to them, he should stick up for you I am in kinda the same situation as far as my B/F's trashy family and my good family, and them bad mouthing me. And my B/F stood up to his family. Also if they are trashy then chances are the only people who pay any attention to what they say are more trashy people. Even though it might seem like they have a million and one friends and every one is in thier corner, trust me when they are not there all those same people talk smack on them. And as long as you arent a gold digger sooner or later they will realise that you are a good girl and if they dont want to chase you off an have thier son end up with a trashy chick, they better back off. They need to realise how amazing it is that you have stuck around despite all thier BS.