I have been dating this girl for 2months now. I started dating her not too long from when she broke up with her BF, whom she'd been dating for 1yr now. I like her, she likes me. She recently called me to tell me that she isn't sure if the relationship will prosper because she thinks we are very different in terms of views, beliefs etc. She also claims that she misjudged how long it will take for the emotional ties to her ex to be severed. She claims that she feels like she can fall in love with me. But, if she does not clear her head as to what she wants, she might hurt me or whatever. I said we can work things out. I don't know if I should just call it quits. Well I like her a lot. That is why I am investing my energy in this. What should I do now? Please Please help a man in his darkest hour. Thank you very much for reading and responding
2006-12-28 06:13:44 · 8 answers · asked by Michael O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you see something missing in all that you've written?
There's no mention of her feelings for you, beyond "she feels like she can fall in love with me"
That's about as weak as it gets...
I think you should walk away from this one. Realize you were a 'rebound' thing and that she's not taking you or your relationship with her very seriously.
If you're taking it seriously, then don't walk...run!
You're hardly in your darkest hour Amigo. This isn't dark at all - it's pretty clear you see the writing on the wall - she's not into you. So, be cool with that...and roll out.
Be a gentleman to her, respect her fully, and bow out gracefully.
You never know what might happen months or years from now, and if not with her, maybe with someone she knows. If you have etiquette and class with her now, it won't hurt a damn thing.
Call it quits - with class.
If you like her a lot and she's not feeling the same intensity toward you, it's best to recognize it and just move on. I've been on both sides of this fence too many times, and moving on is the best-possible thing for both of you.
2006-12-28 06:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by wrdsmth495 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mike. I really think she is playing hot potatoe with love, and that is not cool. You have your principles, and if that is something she may end up not agreeing with, the final result is going to be a wreck. You like her, yes, that may be, so be careful not to fall in love. I promise you there are some great girls out there, you just keep looking. If she is confused now, how long that confusion will last? Will she really be able to take her boyfriend off her mind even if she comes tto you?... May be not. Take your time, don't rush into dangerous waters. Take care, and God Bless.
2006-12-28 06:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by skydiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her what she asks for "Her space" to clear her head. She needs time to sort everything out and to get over her ex. If she has feelings for you she will soon come around and let you know. For time being just be their for her as a Friend and don't push her in to anything more. Let her be the opne to come around. If you are their as a friend you two will become closer and who knows where that will lead to in the long run. When and if the time is right she may come around. Good luck!
2006-12-28 06:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear,
She is trying to tell you in the best possible way that she doesn't think the relationship between you and her will work. I know you like her but I think you need to be friends for now , and maybe look elsewhere for love.
2006-12-28 06:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by babybuds 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should let her clear her head and have her space and let her think this through. Just talk to her about it. Don't break up with her yet because she may just need to be alone for a while to think this through.
2006-12-28 06:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should not cal it a break. maybe this sentence will help u. {Every problems have their solution}. u can work thing out wit ur gf. as long as u show ur support and love to her all the way and she will noe u r the rite one
2006-12-28 06:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by john 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to give her the time she's looking for. she won't be able to give her all if she still has these doubts. hopefully everything will work out in your favor. good luck.
2006-12-28 06:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by sabrewulf01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isn't over her ex, and when she gets aan open to him she will leave you for him. So, I would move on. it will be hard ...
2006-12-28 06:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋