Should a Christian girl date a guy that isint as commited to the church as she is?

Answer 1

To me, it seems like there are two basic questions you need to answer in order to figure this out.

One - where are both of you in your lives? That is, are you looking to casually date? Dating just to date and socialize is an important part of developing who we are, and who we will be when we get into more serious relationships. If this is where you are right now, will religion be an issue? It still may be, but first take a conscious look at just what dating this person means. Having the chance to be together socially will give you a chance to get to know him, and also offer a better chance to gauge how that difference might affect you (either on the chance that something more develops, or as a reference in evalutating future relationships).

Two - how big of a difference is there? Do you attend a morning mass each day and prayer groups each night, while he was perhaps baptized and hasn't set foot in a church since? Clearly such a difference would cause a massive problem as there is such a difference in day to day life. And add on here is what changes are either of you willing to make to help accomodate the other, and can you make those changes and still feel comfortable in your faith?

Answer 2

I ended up with a guy that didn't hold my same standards. It has been really hard because we had a baby and it was always a huge fight over morals and how to raise her. I'm no longer with him and have married a man in my church. We were married in the temple (7 years now) and life is perfect. If you want a strong family you need to be able to attend church together, and have the same basic moral background. I know dating is a ways away from family, but that is what you are working towards.

Answer 3

Isn't as committed? Do you share the same faith? I think you should give him a chance. Maybe you can be a good influence on him. You said that he isn't as committed. That leaves me to believe that there's room for growth spiritually as well as maturity. Maybe that's something you can do together. After all, all have sinned and come short of the glory of God.

Answer 4

Honey, that is almost a perfect description of every "Christian" man. I don't know if you have noticed, but at your church, isn't it disproportionately female - moms with their kids, hubby is at home watching football and only attends on holidays.

It's not unusual at all. As long as you guys have the same basic beliefs then you should be okay - who knows maybe he will go to church more often because you go. I know mine does.

Answer 5

No. Do not be unequally yoked. The values will be different, and this will cause a great deal of hearbreak and angst. Stay committed to your first love (Christ) and He will provide for you in His Will. Good luck, and God Bless!!

Answer 6

A xian person should probably not date someone who is not as involved/devoted to their church/religion as they are simply because it's likely to become an issue fairly quickly.

Answer 7

i've had this problem to. i dont think it hurts to go out with him. but you should talk about religion before you get tooo serious. having a family with someone that doesn't share your religion could suck. and if you get to attached to him and he isn't a christian doesn't that mean you wont see him in the "afterlife". if he really loves you he'll look at becoming christian

Answer 8

Kind of a personal preference but, I think that it's totally your call but don't you want to have a major issue like that in common?

Answer 9

i would say no, but if she does she can help him being more committed to church.

Answer 10

Why not,why should it matter what his religion is as long as you both get along.