well u see i have a bf of my own. and well its a long distance realtionships and its realy hard. i mean we barely talk at times and i do care about him. but sometimes epople tell me times he might be chating and i dont know who to believe. i i kno that he cares too. but i ask myself if it will really work out.
2006-12-28 06:07:34 · 7 answers · asked by niñabonita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, they work. I have been in one for over two years. Yes there are hard times in them but if you really care for the person then you will work things out. If you really care for the person and are true to them then the relationship will work out. I have heard that long distance relationships are the best because you don't get to spend much time together and when you do you are excited about it and you make the most of it. If you really want it to work it takes two of you to make it work. Just one of you can't make it work. If he tells you he doesn't chat to others then you should believe him and what he tells you. That is where the role of trust comes in and you have to trust each other also.
2006-12-28 06:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by *be_23* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested in a spiritual point of view God makes it work out better. Your emotions are surpressed and you do not e.g. miss the person so much you can not focus on other things and do not wish as much for their physical presence/ the physical element of the relationship, however that element may be. You cope better without the person but still strongly know you will be together again, and perhaps happier than you could imagine. The relationship should be spiritual first and foremost for it to make sense. If God is for you then who can be against you?
You need to communicate often outside of information that is actually needed, like sharing the day's experiences, just to make sure you know each other because depending on your age you might both change - it happens. Doing this will also help avoid an awkward situation of not knowing each other, not knowing what to say or do when you're together again.
That keeps you actually involved in each other's lives. Trust each other - you have no choice but to do so. Whether or not you're around, there could be some other girl hitting on your guy. Trust gives you peace of mind, and a partner who feels trusted is going to be happier.
Hope I haven't left out any of the stuff I think is important! Absence can make the heart grow fonder.
2006-12-28 10:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by AYNEK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truely believe it will work out, then so be it. Don't be influenced by what other people say. Long distance relationships are hard. But if you trust him, and he trust you, then it can work. Yeah at times, it'll be rough cause you probably can't see him when you want--but if the both of you can get thru it, then why not put the effort in to make it work?
2006-12-28 06:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by ~Fabulous~ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've answered your own question by stating that you barely talk at times! How good a relationship can that be? Seems to me that something drastic is missing from this picture, sit yourself down and think about what you are getting from this "relationship", if anything!
2006-12-28 06:14:58 · answer #4 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope they do, I'm in one right now... They are more difficult then normal realtionships, but if you guys trust each other, and work hard on the relationship It might work very good.
Good luck, trust your man
2006-12-28 06:09:27 · answer #5 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they work. If you don't talk to him and never see him, whats the point of being chained to a relationship when there are other fishy in the sea.
2006-12-28 06:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
out of sight, out of mind
2006-12-28 06:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by tish s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋