two friends of mine spend every spare minute they have on dating and chat sites and often meet up with people from these sites.if i go and visit them im faced with an evening of looking at their backs while they chat away to their virtural friends so i thought why not try it myself,maybe im missing out on something wonderful.so i joined a chat site put my picture and a few details up and got around 60 messages daily from men wanting to meet me,wanting varoius pictures of my body..u know what im saying.well,it wasnt me so i cancelled my account much to my friends disgust and now they think something is wrong with me.am i old fashioned or outdated as they say?if i wanna meet a man id rather go out and meet a man in the flesh and get to know him face 2 face not by staring into my pc 24/7 but they say im silly and to get with the times.may i add im 28 and they are older than me.
please advise.
2006-12-28 06:02:16 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't really get the whole online dating thing either. i'm sorry, but i'd rather meet a person face to face and kind of get that whole human interaction thing that to get to know each other via a keyboard. sure it's okay to meet someone you talk to online..but it really doesn't have the same effect for me, esp as you said b/c a lot of times it gets turned into "send me naked pictures of yourself" uh-huh.. NOT!! thanks..i really dont' dig talking to a keyboard with someone who may or may not be who they say..
i don't know..it just hasn't ever worked for me.. i prefer the face to face human interaction where you can tell if there is chemistry or not type thing..
2006-12-28 06:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything strange about you not being all into the "internet dating" as your friends are. Actually, I think it speaks volumes of your maturity and excpectations (not that all people on those sites are unrealistic, or immature.. but many are).
Honestly, I'm more concerned for your friends.. and how it sounds like they are a bit too eager to just run out and meet people they've only chatted with online for a while. Sure, there are some very decent and genuine people online, but at the same time.. there are a LOT of people who are not sincere and are often making up things about themselves as they go along. I think you need to get to know a person really well (whether it be online or off) before even thinking about speaking on the phone, much less meeting in person. I mean, with all the things you see on the news these days (not just involving younger girls..) it's pretty scarey to go into that world, without your guard up.. You really never know who you're talking to, until you meet them face to face, and spend time with them.. and sadly, if the meeting is in a private place, that can be a very bad situation.
Of course, I am well aware that there are many people who have met their significant other online, and everything is working out just fine for them, and that's wonderful. I am not "against" online dating, as long as the people involved really take their time, without rushing into something that could end up a huge mistake. I just worry that too many people act like it's somehow safer cause it's online. And if your friends are actually meeting these people.. then I hope they are being very cautous.
2006-12-28 06:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by lovable_deb_81 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 28 and old enough to make your own decision. You tried it and it wasnt for you. If they keep telling you you are old-fashioned etc then maybe they are not the friends you think they are. Good friends wouldnt keep telling you that you are outdated.
Even if partners meet online they still have to go through the process of dating in real life, so why not start there anyway?
They are older than you and unmarried, so is their system working?
Get some new girl friends and dont worry about what these two think.
One day you will find a lovely man if you stick to your own principles.
2006-12-28 06:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not strange you just have more self respect than to send photos of 'body parts' to strangers on the internet.
Go out and meet people the old fashioned way - you cant get to know someones humour etc properly.
Join a local club or find a new hobbie - that way you will meet new friends as well rather than sitting staring at your friends back all night - they are the ones that are missing out on your company!!
2006-12-28 06:14:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I d rather meet someone face to face first than on a computer. Any one can type any thing to get themselves noticed and there is no way of knowing that what they say or the picture they post is real. As for asking for pictures of body parts that would earn them a slap in real life, that's why they do it.
I was always taught to not go off with strangers and that's what someone you have meet off the Internet is. I think your friends are the ones being silly and in their desire to be hip and with the times they are putting themselves in danger.
2006-12-28 06:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by rebecca x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. However, there are people that enjoy meeting other people online. I have several friends that do the same thing. When we hang out, we plan to do something away from the house so that the computer does not get in the way. Try signing on to Yahoo! Messenger and ask them to sign on also and talk to them that way. It may help you feel more like you are in their computer world and you can explain to them that you want to talk to them on the computer but you are not ready to use the same services that they use. Maybe in time you will change your mind, if not then you can still talk to them online and you won't feel left out.
Hope this helps you out....Good Luck!
2006-12-28 06:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not strange-I don't agree with many chat rooms and the like. I suggest you look for different friends and try meeting ppl in a church. But be warned going to church or claiming so DOES NOT make someone a saint-there are pefvs there too...Good luck...PS. your friends need to grow up and get a life...
2006-12-28 07:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by Tiara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - you're the normal one! From experience, most guys looking on the internet are only looking for (weird) sex. I'm not saying ALL of them but definately more than half. Love will happen when you least expect it ... like when you're doing the weekly shop, having a totally bad hair day with a huge zit on the end of your nose ... I hope he comes along soon xxx
2006-12-28 06:28:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong in your decision to go against the cyber machine theres nothing better than a handsome stranger smiling at you in the supermarket.your friends are just hooked on a game, if you meet somebody on a computer be prapared to share them with there computer.
2006-12-28 07:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by clare p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always thought those sites were kind of silly and childish. Stay true to yourself and meet people the way you are comfortable doing. Best wishes!
2006-12-28 06:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋