My friend gave me this card with my gift and I was quite shocked to see that he would do that. His gifts did not look regifted... why would he regift the card in such an obvious tasteless manner? I hope he didn't see the look of disgust on my face.
After thinking about it, I am bothered that he did this... should I say something to him?
2006-12-28 05:50:06 · 14 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Who cares if people regift? What is the hype all about? Maybe he thought you would like and it really wasn't his taste.
It was a bit tacky that he didn't change the card, but the holidays are harried and he probably just forgot.
Think of it this way ~ he could have given you nothing. Then how would you feel?
Hmmm...??
2006-12-28 06:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by purple_amanecer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes guys aren't too savvy when it comes to gift-giving customs. My guess is that he was really sincere -- after all, he gave you a gift -- but just doesn't yet realize that people don't like receiving a card that was used previously. I could even imagine a scenario where he tried to find you a perfect card and couldn't end up finding any one that expressed his sentiments better than the one that he already had.
I'd say, accept the gift and the card in the spirit in which they were given.
2006-12-28 14:11:05 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely certain that he re-gifted it? If it came in a gift bag, it may not be re-gifted at all, and he simply re-used the bag that someone gave him. On the other hand, if you know for a fact the gift was re-gifted, think about it. If you liked the gift before you found out he re-gifted it, you're the one who now looks shallow because it would appear your only reason for not liking the gift(s) was simply because it was re-gifted. How are his finances? Maybe he felt compelled to re-gift because he's running low on dough and he decided to do without so you didn't have to. I agree that sometimes re-gifting is tasteless, but then again, maybe he thought the gift suited you better than it did him. My grandfather just gave my dad the sweater my mom gave him for Christmas because grandpa prefers cardigans and the sweater was a pull-over. My mom was just glad he gave it to my dad because she knows it's better for my dad to have it and use it rather than sit in a drawer at my grandfather's house and never get worn.
2006-12-28 14:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by Monique M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are several ways to look at it -- yours is one of them. On the other hand, my mom does this too -- she is an ardent environmentalist and says this will help save trees! OK, so it's a bit silly and crude, but she means well -- and maybe he did too. But if it bothers you, yes, say something. Letting things like that fester only hurts the relationship for no reason. And BTW, I LOVE the idea of giving it back to him as a birthday card -- just cross out the greeting and change it, then use arrows to move the names, etc. Payback is a b....!
2006-12-28 14:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me?! He re-gifted a card! That's just tacky. You can go to any dollar store and get cards for cheap. Or, just not give a card at all.
I guess you could always ask him why he did this. Otherwise, I would just let it drop.
2006-12-28 14:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't believe in giving cards with gifts. Cards are ******* stupid. Why do you care if the gifts weren't regifted? It's a piece of cheap cardboard that will be thrown out long before the gift. Please find something else to ***** about.
2006-12-28 13:59:16 · answer #6 · answered by EmptyWhiskeyJar 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
that's one of the most ridiculous things i've ever heard of!! hahahaha. i can't imagine why anyone would do that!! or more importantly, why ANYONE would feel that doing THAT would be better than not giving a card AT ALL! i seriously hope he did that as a joke. i would cross out your name on the card and write his name in and give it back to him!!
2006-12-28 21:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by ~ Mi$fitPrin¢ess ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're bothered, ask him about it. Not dramatically, just ask. "I liked my present, but I was surprised about the scratched out names on the card. What's up with that?"
It's called relationship maintenance. If people asked each other about these things instead of third parties, Dr. Phil and his ilk would be out of business.
2006-12-28 14:36:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, I hate regifters, you shoudl give him that card on another holiday like Valentine's day or his Birthday.....hahah
2006-12-28 13:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That was not a friend! Choose your friends more carefully and disassociate yourself from that low life peasant!
2006-12-29 15:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Sven B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋