I have a major problem, my Man has a very small penis so much that i hardly feel him when we have done it. The other problem is, he's a diabetic type 1 and now the problems are getting worse cause he can't get it up at all (he has ED).I have been with him for 8 years and i have not had real sex in 4 years and it's now killing me.
I keep thinking of sex. We ve even tried Viagra but it has not help at all because he has severe ED due to his diabetes.i know it's not his fault that he has diabetes and a small D**K. I got with him b'coz he is a great man & i thought i would get used to his size & i thought love would conquer all but it has not. I do masturbate but it cannot take the place of a man.
He gives me oral sex but i want intercourse. My body is screaming out for a man & i'm scared that i'm going to cheat because i have been sexually derived for so long. is what i'm feeling wrong.I want a man so bad it scares me sometimes. I sometimes feel i'm ready to jump on anyman. Help
2006-12-28 05:49:29 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to hear your situation. But consider what you'd want if the tables were turned. He is trying everything he is physically able to do to keep you pleasured. If you were him, I'm sure you'd feel a great sense of inadequacy. I understand your dilemma but I urge some restraint to protect both of you from more emotional damage...
2006-12-28 05:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand - my soon to be ex has the same problem (divorcing because he kept cheating to prove his manhood). Is he aware of how you feel? I think that is the first place to start, then look at maybe strap on toys from sex shops. There are some really good ones out there and you can choose the size and shape that will feel best for you.
But open communication will be the more important part of it. It might hurt at first and it might be embarrasing, but getting it all out and open will let you find a good solution. You seem to love him and it seems that you have both put too much time and effort in to a good relationship to let it go. It also might be advisable to talk to a Dr. about other surgical options, although i think the strap on can give you what you need with out painful surgery that might not even work.
2006-12-28 06:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by Codi 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I had that same situation, but mine is kind of different because I lost feelings for him so we seperated. But in your case if you love him so much then I guess that shouldn't matter. You can buy him a penis pump. I did once buy my ex a penis pump but he refused to use it (which was a turn off). I feel if you tell him how you feel he should atleast understand it and try to make you happy,
Then you got to decide if your relationship is based on sex if not then you can pass this. But I know how you feel not having that intimacy you want with your mate. But you can also give him a strap on, dildo, etc. Dont do anything to hurt him (cheat), but if you feel you may cheat take a break because feelings are mostly acted on. i know you would rather leave then to cheat. Good Luck
2006-12-28 06:00:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ally R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways to make up for a man that has a small or inadequate penis.
Since I bet he is just as concerned about this as you, why dont you guys get an extendor or get a toy and let him be the one to use it on you while his is laying on you.
If Viagra is not working, my be you guys need to switch to Cialis or the other one I forget the name, but I see the commercials on TV. Anyway, try everything before you take the road worse traveled which would be to cheat on him. For better or worse right?
Don't lose your head on account of giving up your tail.
2006-12-28 05:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're wrong. Your man has both a serious medical ailment and a physical feature over which he has no control, and which you've known about from the start. He apparently has treated you well and shown you love and affection - and yet you're considering cheating after 8 years together simply because he can't get an erection.
You're a loser - do him a favor and leave him before you cheat on him. Make sure to tell him the reason, too... so that the next time he considers getting involved with someone as shallow as you, he makes the connection and instead chooses a woman with character, class, and morals.
BTW - maybe it's not that his penis is too small, but that your vagina is... well... you sound like the type
2006-12-28 05:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Just Some Guy 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
wow...i think its normal for any woman to desire sex/ intercourse, but there comes a point when you have to decide whether its the most important thing. If it really is important to you, then you should tell him that, maybe he can do something about it, but if he can't and you can't live without it to the point that you would cheat, i think its best that you end the relationship so that you can find what you want and he can find someone who would love him for all he has, and all he doesn't have. I know its hard cuz you two have been together for so long, but its not fair for either of you if the relationship will fall to pieces based on something like that. goodluck!
2006-12-28 05:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by kvan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, never bring up small penis size to a man unless he brings it up first and is comfortable talking about it. Second, your boyfriend may consciously or unconsciously base a lot of his masculinity on his genitals. You can help him by avoiding that issue and commenting very positively on other masculine attributes he might have, including: a strong work ethic, a get things done attitude, a nice physique, his physical strength, hairiness, etc. Whatever he has that makes him seem very manly to you, mention.
2016-03-13 07:44:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I throw these sleep overs for women called slumber parties and invite over my homegirls all the time. The lady sells sex toys and she explains how they are used and they have other things you can buy too. What i would recommend for you is a little device called a bullet. It's 3 inches long(sound familar) but it vibrates like something you have never felt before. You dont want another dyck other then your mans in your life cause they all come with some form of unnessary drama. You can have a bullet and get the pleasure you want without cheating. also its travel size and its easy to hide. Wouldnt want to hurt your mans manhood any more then it already is. Buy one girl you wont be dissapointed.
2006-12-28 06:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by meka g 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It the oral was good and he knew how to use his hands, you would be so full filled you would not be worried about the size or event the penis at all. I guess I am very fortunate, my man will have me so tired from excessive orgasms that by the time the foreplay is over. I am exhausted and could care less about the penis. All is takes is a confident and skilled lover. God bless****
2006-12-28 05:57:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Viagra and other ED treatment don't work, maybe you and he should look into an implant. You clearly love him, but you both need some help in the sex area. Talk to him about an implant or some alternatives.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 05:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by BlankProfile 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋