One of the main problems with us(people in general-those who are married) is we cannot keep our words? We cannot keep an agreement..so why do the majority of marriages lead to divorce sooner or later..
2006-12-28 05:49:06 · 25 answers · asked by ME 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it's because most people get married too early and just walk out at the first big fight.
I have seen so many people here on Yahoo! Answers talk about getting married with their significant other of only like TWO years or sometimes even less. That's so ridiculous.
I have seen people just give up at the first argument, that's so stupid because EVERYONE argues and you have to deal with the problems and the differences until it gets completely unbearable. NO relationship is all rainbows and sunshine.
2006-12-28 05:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the biggest problem is definitely communication. Couples do not have time to communicate, or may even find that communication leads to further fighting, and results in more problems. Couples have a lack of trust in each other. "My girlfriend is an hour late, she is probably having sex with a guy after work." NOOOO! That is negative thinking. Furthermore, couples have too realize the true meaning in each other: why are they together? Perhaps you are not meant for one another, and there is another, more faithful, person out there for you. Most importantly, I believe that one out of the two loses the sense of the other's beauty. I hope this didnt confuse, and helped in some ways.
2006-12-28 15:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Fantasy. Too many people don't understand what a committment marriage is. They get married because they are pregnant, because it is just "time" since they have been dating for a while, because they want to have a wedding, because they don't think they can find anyone better.
Don't marry someone you can live with, marry someone you can't live without! Marriage should ENHANCE your life, not make it boring and more complicated!
I love being married to my husband, we got married for all the right reasons. What a blessing in my life it has been. As long as we are together we feel like we can face anything!
2006-12-28 13:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by April 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people do not understand that a marriage is a constant job, that you always have to work on it. You have to feed it, nurture it, respect it and honor it. Some think the marriage is more about the wedding and that everything is blissful past that point. And then there aer some who just really dont care.
Once married, you have to live the rest of your life working on it, making sure that it works. If you give up working on it, it dies...
2006-12-28 15:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because people forget that marriage is suppose to be a lifetime committment. They jump into it assuming they can just divorce if they're unhappy. Also, so many people are so self absorbed, they don't realize they're spouses' needs. They only do what makes them happy. I've learned that marriage (like any relationship- be if with family, friends or lovers) is all about compromise and communation. People need to listen to each other. They'll tell you what they need.
2006-12-28 14:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, I'd like to point out to aj above that the highest divorce rates occur in the "red" states in the U.S, specifically the Bible belt. So there is absolutely no basis in fact that "Christ-centered" relationships "last longer" than those marriages where other beliefs are involved.
Second, it does come down to compatibility on communication. You have to check your ego at the door to maintain a healthy relationship. There is give-and-take, back-and-forth, and compromise and communication both play large roles in the success of a healthy relationship.
2006-12-28 13:56:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a question of keeping our words or violating agreements. There are many more things that can break up a relationship than there ever used to be. Since life itself has become much more complicated, so has keeping a relationship together.
2006-12-28 13:56:38 · answer #7 · answered by colorguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole concept of marriage is truly misunderstood. Most often people go in to marriage thinking its going to be a bed of roses and happily ever after. A lot of them don't expect the amount of work it takes to make a marriage work. Besides most often a little misunderstanding is often seen as grounds for divorce of seperation. Marriage is hard work day by day and most often couples don't want or expect it. Its easier to give up than to do the hard work for them.
2006-12-28 13:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by dsd 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people just get married for money or one of them feels sorry for the other. Sometimes a couples feelings for each other change because they realize who they really are after living with them. Some people think they can control the person they're married to because they thing they'll do anything for them because they love them so much.
2006-12-28 14:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by The Chemical 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is very sacred and a lot of couples don't value that. It's easier to run than to actually stick it out and put forth the effort that is needed to make it last instead of thinking of it as a fairy tale. People should put more of an effort into their marriage instead of just the wedding.
2006-12-28 13:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by Gigi 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋