How do I stop!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

I am always rude to my family, and I cant stop! At first I thought it was the boys being mean to me at school, but they stopped, and I am still rude! i also feel depressed and think I am really fat, when most people think, that im skinny! The most i eat in one day is about 1/2 a meal, my mom nags a little, but it seams that she has stoppeed caring what do I do before i hurt myself and my whole family!?

Answer 1

You didn't mention your age, but I am going to assume you are a teenager. Honey, it's mostly your age and it's normal to be mean and rude. You are going through a lot of major changes in your life. You obviously see/think you have a problem and asking for help is always the first step. Instead of posting here and asking for help, the best thing you can do is go talk to your mom. Tell her what you have asked us. If you find it hard to talk directly to her, write her a letter. That way you can be clear and rewrite it if you have to. Mother & Daughter relationships are very tough but I know of a lot of parents that had trouble with their teen daughters and now they are the best of friends so don't give up hope.

My advice, talk to your mom, father, someone close to your family to work out the feelings you are having.

About your being depressed and thinking you are fat, that also is normal and most people, men & women go through that. But you can't stop eating. That actually makes you gain more weight. When your mom nags, you really should listen, as much as it hurts to say, she probably is right. I think if you talk to your mom and tell her what you are feeling and thinking, it might help to bring the two of you closer. She really does care, believe me. At this age though, it is very hard to see though. Good luck to you though. :)

Answer 2

First you must understand this should be addressed by a professional that can talk with you about everything. To hope to get an answer here that will be life changing is not going to happen.

However from what you say there could be two problems here but very closely related.

First you may be bulimic or at the very least not seeing reality regarding your weight.
Very closely related is your self esteem. There are some people with esteem problems that do not pull back into themselves but become very aggressive about it. You don't feel good about yourself so are always on the lookout for someone putting you down. So much so that that quite often, when someone says something to you that may be well intended, in not feeling good about yourself take it wrong and you start a fight.

You say that boys use to be mean but now they stopped. Your mother nagged but now she stopped.

There comes a point that no matter what you say to a person they take it wrong and either will not take your advise or start a fight over it. It doesn't take long and you pull away from them because who likes to fight. No one.

You do need help with this. Maybe talk to your family doctor or if you go to church talk to you minister. Someone that you know will listen and give you a way to help this.

You know this is not a normal way to live. If you don't fix it now it will only get worse. And it gets very lonely living alone.

Answer 3

First, Re-ask yourself why you're being rude. With the boys in school, it's because they were being mean to you. You will only feel comfortable with your body when you learn to like no, Love yourself. Sounds stupid, but it's true. No one person is perfect and even in magazines when they look perfect, they are not. Dress in clothing that flatters your body or makes you comfortable and forget what others think or say, the only opinion that is going to count is YOURS!

Your mom is probably worried about you. She may be a pain in the butt sometimes, but she loves you and only wants good for you. begin by apologizing to her for being an idiot/being mean to her and let her know what's going on with you. Open up a line of communication with her you might find that she's got some good advice... or outdated advice. bump yourself up to 2-3 meals a day. They don't have to be large meals just to make sure that your body is getting the nutrients it needs. THAT might be one of the reasons you're not too happy right now. When your body doesn't get the vitamins and all of that other gukk that it needs to run well, it can go a lil' crazy. veggies and fruit are not high in calories and adding other food groups might help you balance out your emotions. if that doesn't work... keep a journal. write about what's going on with you and how you're feeling, what makes you mad and times when you were in a good mood and what got you there.

i knowi talk alot, but i hope it helped you some.
Roxanne

P.S. hug and kiss your mother today and apologize.

Answer 4

Dear Alex. It really require a lot of effort from you. First of all, you need to think in your motives. What causes you to explode? Is it your temper? Is it disrespect for your family? or is it that you think you are better and more important than anyone else? Are you frustrated with your life?
I don't know, but the causes may be uno or more of many posibles. What you really need to understand is that this behaviour is not taking you anywhere, and if you continue this way, some day you will take it to your marriage. Do you imagine if you raised kids with those kind of attitudes? You really need to work on it before it is too late. Besides, if you are gentle, people is going to have a great opinion of you, and you will be accepted a lot more. You will be a lovely person.
You are a princess, make sure you grow to be like one. Now, on this food issue, make sure you get the right nutrition for your body, and don't judge the food by the amount you eat, but by how satisfied your body is.
God Bless.

Answer 5

Its a question of self esteem and depression. But the fact that you've noticed the problem, is a huge step forward.
By rude, do you mean you're always giving them smart alec answers, even when they ask ligitimate questions? If so, think before you say something next time. And if you do blurt out an insult, appoligise for it.
Once they realize you're really trying to change your behavior, theirs will change towards you.

Do you think be being skinny, more people are going to like you? Or perhaps, boys will notice you? Its what's on the inside that counts, kiddo, not any extra pounds. I've seen plenty of "beauitiful" women whom I wouldn't touch with a 39 and a half foot pole, as the grinch says. Beauty radiates from the inside.

Answer 6

First of all, learn to love yourself. Be happy with the way you look. Treat your family how you would want to be treated. If something is bothering you, talk to your family instead of pushing them away. They could have some great advice for you. If you have a problem, your family does care and they will help you if you just tell them. They can't help you if they don't know what is wrong. And also, you have to eat. You will get really sick if you don't and your brain won't function properly if it doesn't get the nutrients that it needs. If you want to lose weight and be healthy, then eating a good balance of nutrients and exercising is the best way to go. Also, if you get a good balance of protein, veggies, and fruit, then you then you will be happier as well. It is scientifically proven that if you eat right, you will feel alot better emotionally. So good luck and please take my advice because I promise it will work if you just follow through with it and make a very strong effort to do it. Good Luck and Happy New Year.

Answer 7

It sounds like you may be under stress which causes the best of us to lash out. For some reason it's easier to lash out at the ones we love rather than complete strangers.

I'd recommend isolating yourself when you feel irritated and evaluate exactly why you are upset and try to do something you enjoy to relax. I would recommend trying to eat at least 3 meals a day as well because you may be stressing your body out by not eating.

If all else fails, go see a school counselor or a therapist. Having an unbiased party involved can do wonders for helping you figure out why you feel the way you do and what you can do to feel better.

Good luck. :)

-Holly
www.iconfessional.com Admin

Answer 8

Well, for the rudness thing, say that your sorry to your family and that you are going through specific "things" like say school is stressing you out or that you stay up too late and you get grumpy and rude. And as for the fatness thing, you are NOT fat if you are only eating 1/2 a meal everyday, and what she means by hurting you and your family, (I think she means) That by not eating the proper amount of food your supposed to be eating, you could hurt yourself, what she means by hurting your family, that if you get anerexia, you could die and it will hurt your family.
Best of Wishes,
Dolphins1817

Answer 9

Well your mean cause your hungry, it does affect your mood. Only eating a small amount in one day actually slows down your metabolism. You should be eating small portions every few hours or so if your trying to lose weight which it doesn't sound like you need to. Don't let the media hype you out about your looks, no one expects you or wants you to look like Paris Hilton. Eat up, get some exercise, always boosts your mood and just be yourself, you'll feel a lot better. Good luck :)

Answer 10

It sounds like you are depressed maybe. You should ask your mom to take you to a therapist or someone else that you can talk to. Being a teenager is very hard. Its a very confusing time for everyone. Talking to someone about everything could really make things easier for you. Remember your not a bad person or anything, your just going through a difficult time. Things will get better, don't be to hard on yourself! Good Luck!!!