I dont know what to do.....?

Question

I have been with this person for 4yrs and we have a baby...for the pass week or two he has been telling me that this is not he life and he didnot want this he feel that he is home all the time and that he is with the baby all the time when iam at work and that he would like to go out...but when i ask him to go out with me he will tell me no...he will not go out with me and he will not go out with me and the baby and i have a kid that is not his but he does not take care of he.....i dont know sometimes i just to tell him to go then if he is not happy but then i just dont know way i put up with it...one min he is happy and then the next he is sad,,,when he does go out he is calling me all the time...but it not like when i ask him to go out with me he has to to pay,i dont know what to do....i love him with all my hart and i just want him to be happy with or with out me,i just dont know what to do can someone help me......thank you

Answer 1

:) u sound like a sweet, honest, and wonderful individual.

my advice to you would be to let him go..... so that both of u can find a chance to make a Great relationship with someone who is Right for both of you.. not forcing a bad situation because u are used to staying together. tell him if he wants to go, please go. if he wants to stay, u have to make a Change in the rleatioship. u have to make it work, and that means Work. that means, spending time together, going on dates, getting baby sitters, whatever. but he is making u feel neglected, and u are unhappy, and that makes him unhappy. this is not a healthy relationship, even if there is love there.

if u are strong enough, please let him go. u have to explore what ur life holds for you too, especially if he will not explore it with you.

Answer 2

I was kinda in a situation like that. I think he probably don't want to be without you, but everyone needs some me time. Set aside time for you to do you, and set aside time for him to do him. You should also set aside time for you both to do something together with the baby. I know its easier said then done, but at the end of the day you'll both be happy to see each other and it'll be ok. Always remeber that whatever is in the dark comes to the light and if it ain't meant to be you'll see. Try not to stress too much, over this as it will only make the situation more tense and both parties become more irritated with each other and the situation. Take Care. Hope This Helps!

Answer 3

Let him go out! It's important for people in a relationship to have a life other than the other person. It is unhealthy to be around the same person all the time and bogged down by responsibility. No wonder he sounds depressed. I would be depressed, too, if all my life was how you described his. Perhaps if you were to let him go out with friends on a regular basis for awhile, maybe then he would want to also go out with you.

Answer 4

Jesus... First of all, speak english. Secondly, if you have a bf that goes out without you, doesn't want to be part of the life you're leading, and doesn't want to go out with you... the answer there is pretty simple. The guy is on a hunt for other women and with you there, it's really hard to pick up chicks. Sorry, but it's true.

Answer 5

Well then as hard as it may seem you need to let him go. If he loved you truely he would love your kids just as much wheteher they were his or not. Any man willing to accept you needs to accept the child too if not he is nto worth it!!!!!!! i tell you this from personal experience! If he says he wants to leave, show him where the door is, let him walk out and then move on with your life to where one day you will be happy! It is obvious your not happy if you upset and asking us.

Answer 6

sounds like if you stick with him, it's gonna be like this forever. i would say that you should leave, take your kids and move on. i'm speaking from experience. it's easier to take care of your children without all the hassle from that guy. he's acting like a child himself, and before he can be responsible for you and the kids he needs to be responsible for himself. if he doesn't want to go out with you, then there is something wrong. i would take off and hopefully you guys can work something with the kids if need be. good luck and yes it's okay to cry.... a lot! be strong and stick to your guns!

Answer 7

Read T.D Jakes book..Daddy loves His little Girls...there is a passage there that says ..Don't wait for the abuse(doesn't just mean someone who hits another) to change, You change and be concerned about you and your happiness. That and the welfare of your child should be your main focus and only concern.
Love is as love does..

Answer 8

Why don't you talk to him? Maybe he is having some issues that he needs to discuss with you. Make him understand that you want him to be happy too and that you are willing to work it out so it is better for both of you. Good luck.

Answer 9

your man is feeling insecure, things are not going right for him and he feels threatened and caged and he is merely reacting to situations that he finds himself, he need to raise his self esteem, you need to encourage him to do something with his life, he needs to start doing something that gives him fulfillment and makes him feel worthwhile. he wants to be a good dad, encourage him and show him that you care, don't tell him what to do, just help him in a subtle way to find his bearing, do this with love.

Answer 10

ummmmmmmmm errrrrrrrr ahhhhhhhh I am not sure exactly what you are trying to say......sorry