I can't decide weather or not to continue seeing this guy.
We are not really in a “relationship,” it's more like we just hook up once a week or so when our schedules work out... The sex is actually pretty fun and good, but I AM a woman, which means with sex comes emotional attachment (unfortunately). Right now, I am trying my very, very best to leave my emotions out of it and just have this as a sex-only thing. But, I just know that he would probably never be interested in a relationship with me, and I am beginning to LIKE him, like him. Should I just end it now and leave the steady good sex behind, or continue seeing him for our “dates” and possibly get my heart crushed in the end??
2006-12-28 05:41:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps you need to talk with him about where the relationship is going. If you don't mind using eachother, then leave it at that. But if you really do want more out of the relationship then perhaps you should start asking him if he'd like to do some more traditional dating activities (like dinner and movies) to you can talk with him a little more than your current "date" nights..
2006-12-28 05:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to really sit down and have a good talk
sex is not everything and meaningful sex means a great deal more. Sex partners but what about emotional partners.
The heart and spirit can only take to much hurt and then it has to speak out.
I think you need to tell him that you are becoming emotionally involved as well and see what goes from there.
gather courage and if it doesn't go anywhere you might be better off and find someone that is good for you in a full relationship instead of a part time one.
Wishing you the best
2006-12-28 13:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say leave him why you can, or before your heart gets really broken. I know sounds tough now, but unless you can just see it as only physical and remind yourself of that constantly its only gonna get worse. Believe me I have been there and you have to turn yourself into a heartless person and you end up hating life. You would be better off just moving on and looking for a real relationship if that's what you really want. You never know that might open his eyes to what he will be missing out on. Or even play hard to get and see how it turns out. Whatever you do, use protection cause you don't know who else he is with. Good luck and use your head, not your heart honey.
2006-12-28 13:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by hot mama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to make the decision to end the relationship you do have, why not ask him if he wants to take it to the next level. You're not losing anything if he says no. But, I'll bet $5 that if you end the sex part he'll try to start something more. As the old saying goes "You don't know what you've got till it's gone." But, if you make the decision to end it, then end it no matter what he does, because as soon as he knows he has you again, it will go back to what it was before.
My advice, move on and find a guy who actually loves you and not your vagina.
Good luck.
2006-12-28 13:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by albion53151 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him how he feels, and what he wants. He may have feelings for you too. Sex is good, but meant when there are feelings involved. Or, when you share the closeness of sex, feelings come after. I wish you the best.
You may need to stop the sex before you get hurt any more than now, if he does not feel the same way.
2006-12-28 13:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by mjcariati1971 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Its a possibility that he just might feel the same about you. Either way if you tell him you will know one way or the other. If he just wants you for sex then you should find someone who wants both sex and a relationship. Hope everything works out.
2006-12-28 13:56:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him unless you can totally detach yourself during sex. You are right--women tend to relate sex with emotions and you will most likely only fall in love with him given time. If you are looking for a relationship, you'll improve your chances and your motivation if you don't have the easy sex waiting for you every week.
2006-12-28 13:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you have a talkwith him and see how he feels. maybe he's afraid of telling you how he feels because he doesn't know how you'll react? you don't lose anything with doing that. well maybe the good sex, but that's it. just sit down and have a talk with him. if you fell you can't continew/ out getting attached then the best thing to do is stop. but talk it out and see what happens. he's probably stressing about the same thing you are.
2006-12-28 13:47:38 · answer #8 · answered by Purple Tink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him up and find a new guy. Why would you want to be with someone that clearly wantsnothing more from you than sex. There is so much more to a relationship
2006-12-28 13:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey- hooking up is NOT a relationship
start dating and keep the sex to an as needed basis.
you know that sex with love is better than any other!
2006-12-28 13:45:05 · answer #10 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋