ok here it goes, me and my boyfriend have been having terrible fights, everytime we see eachother it happens! BUT thats not the problem, the problem is we dont have sex anymore or when we do try to have sex he just stops, he tells me its because of all the nasty words that has been said between us, and its not that he does not want to he does he says its because were not getting on, and b4 anyone says about his getting it somewhere else i dont think its about tht! i feel so down and feel like he does not fancy me anymore, has anyone been in this situation? and how did you deal with it? thanks :)
2006-12-28 05:39:32 · 21 answers · asked by ice_castles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to sort out your relationship before you sort out your sex life. If you don't like the person as a human being, I don't mean fancying them, you will not want to have sex with them. Yeah I was in this situation when I was younger. I thought he didn't fancy me it just turned out he didn't like me! lol. We had a great relationship at first but we just got sick of seeing each other all the time. Try to give each other a bit of space, not all men crave sex all the time, as strange as it sounds! lol. Some just want a bit of freedom, believe me, absence makes the heart grow fonder and your sex life will be even better. I don't have sex with my partner as much as I used to, but when we do it's really good.
2006-12-28 05:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im new to this but I def don't agree with everythin thats been sed. First of all, sex isn't everythin n if u find urself wantin to leave him cos of that then mayb u need to ask urself if the relationship was based on sex only. Try tlkin things out b4 makin up with sex. I dont think takin a break helps unless u communicatin and workin things out otherwise-u take a break n not tlk 2 ea otha then decide u ok n get bac 2getha jus 2 find that nothin has been resolved. My fiance and I went through a patch lyk that n walkin away isnt the answer. Hope u guys wrk things out cos if its worth the trouble u'll treasure it even mo n u'll love the proper make up sessions wen things r sorted...
2006-12-28 06:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Tiara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a good discussion about what has been talked about in the past between the pair of you, then put it where it belongs - in the past. If you are adults then perhaps you need to seek the help of either a sex therapist or some type of relationship expert to help with this problem. Hopefully though you can have an open minded discussion and resolve these issues among yourselves. Best of luck.
2006-12-28 05:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thou the same thing with my now husband back when we were dating. We would fight all the time and we just quit having sex. You guy's need to talk! You also need to look at yourself and why your fighting all the time. It can be so many different things. For me and my husband alot of it had to do with me and somethings that had happened in my past that I was not dealing with. After I started to deal with all MY problems (and after we took a brake for a month) things went back to normal again. It's been great ever since.
The key to any relationship is communication! Talk with each other and try to understand with each other is coming from. Good Luck and I hope y'all can work this out.
2006-12-28 05:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The arguments are probably putting him off sex-and he just can't get himself excited after nasty words and hurtful comments. On the plus side-this shows it's not just sex to him-it means much more. The both of you need to re-evaluate your relationship,find out what the real source of the arguments is,and try to find a happy medium in what you both want. Only when the fighting stops will the loving begin. Best of luck to both of you.
2006-12-28 05:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that he isnt able to make love to you because there is to much hurt and confusion in his head . does he burst into tears aswell . i think you need a break apart to find out how much love you have for each another . dont see each another for a week and then you will know if its meant to be . but there is always the chance that it might go back to the same as before and if thats the case then there is no point in carrying on im afraid . i wish you and your boyfriend all the best of love and luck as you will both need it to get through these hard times . iv been there and done it and you have to be strong .dont let anyone tell you to fall out with him as its not there life .
All the best for 2007
2006-12-28 05:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by bob a builder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i have been in that situation before!
We used to row alot and say really hurt full things, but when we made up ( had sex ) "i" didn't feel the same anymore!
He didn't feel any different but all the hurt full things we said to each other just went round and round in my head. 1nc the flame for sex has gone. . . then the whole thing has!!
2006-12-28 05:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talked to him and ask him straight what's going on.Let him know how you feel.If this does not make things better then the relationship is not working anymore.Most of the time this have to happen to figure out that you two are not doing good together. Just make sure you clear everything and work it out.
2006-12-28 05:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by juanita77008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are fighting so much and it is getting in the way of your physical relationship then maybe it's time to end the relationship altogether. I'm sorry, this must be hard to hear but this relationship is obviously not working.
2006-12-28 05:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to either break up or give eachother some space. stay away from eachother for a while and give yourselves time to miss eachother.
if that fails then i would break up with him, no relationship can be good when there are so much fights.
2006-12-28 05:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋