There is this man (whose name I would not mention) and he is not a good influence in my life. I know he is wrong for me, and I know he is using me, but I can't stop calling and seeking him out. How can I stop thinking or getting depressed about this man? Think of a good answer, because it has been three days since I last called him and I am DYING TO PICK UP THE PHONE.
2006-12-28 05:39:21 · 17 answers · asked by carisondamove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are already doing a good job by admitting that you shouldn't call him. Do all you can to meet someone else. Even if you are on the "rebound".
2006-12-28 05:43:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ivar 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to realize why he's wrong for you. You should also go find some good friends and spend time with them. Time heals all wounds but good friends help heal them faster. Just go out with some friends and have a good time, you don't necessarily have to spill your guts to them.
The man I loved and was with for a little more than a year (not that it's that long) broke up with me about 2 weeks ago and I felt like dying... I don't think my friends realize that they saved me from such depression and despair, only one knows of the break up and he doesn't even know how severe the initial pain was.
2006-12-28 13:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pick up the phone. He is waiting for that for his own satisfaction because he knows that you are a weak woman.Best advise stay close with friends and family to avoid him. Write on your journal, go out to places and have fun. Meet new people. He isn't a good influence, he isn't the only man in the world.
2006-12-28 13:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been there and the best thing i think to do is to surround yourself with good friends that care about you. Instead of calling him call your friends and talk about anything and everything except him. Another thing is to read a good book or just keep yourself busy by going out even if you're just window shopping or getting a cup of coffee. And more importantly delete his number from your phone.
2006-12-28 13:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by needtoknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO please don't do it...he is not a good influence and you know it...I have been in your shoes... and then some...I had lots of "friends" that were boys and a few that were down right no good...and I just kept telling myself that things would get better...they don't...not with that guy...anyway...it is hard not to call and I am SO PROUD that you have gone 3 days without calling...occupy your time with other things-hobbies, interests, things that keep your mind off that loser.... you are too good for him and he does NOT deserve your good heart....
In time, you will find Mr Right (I DID!!) and you will know and look back and say, what did i waste my time with that loser for anyway!!
2006-12-28 13:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by pianoshopgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Three things:
1. Good Friends to remind you what a scum he was and to help occupy you to keep you from picking up that phone.
2. Booze
3. Time
2006-12-28 13:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by The MD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, the question is, do u love this guy? Do u want to spend the rest of your life with this guy? If u don't, then try to find someone. Take a risk, theres plenty of fish in the sea if your willing to look for them!
2006-12-28 13:43:47 · answer #7 · answered by TippyToes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you like him. You want him. I can't undestand how bad this can be. I think is needless to forget him. If he spoils you, well...spoil him too.
There's no bad love! There's no sense in getting depressed about him, when you can have him. If he's really bad he'll probably soon disappoint you. If he don't...that's all good about you.
And..finally, if you're absolutly sure that you should forget him, well..you already have.
2006-12-28 13:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by naddeto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try thinking or crushing on someone else! Or meet another person. Don't ever have tunnel vision! There are soo many guys out there and its a shame to have your eye just on one guy that doesn't even treat you right. I'd totally move on.
2006-12-28 13:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like the attention you get from him. As you have said its not a healthy relationship. instead of calling him find someone else who you can talk and hang out with. try to get him out of your life. Or do something that gets him off your mind all together, movies, books, games.
2006-12-28 13:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Slappn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋