I wondering if people get a kind of trauma each time they fail in their relationship ...? especially if they got hurt twice in two subsequent relationships ?
2006-12-28 05:33:34 · 10 answers · asked by Roy A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Statistically, guys get more traumatized than females when their relationship falls apart. But not necessarily "each time".
2006-12-28 05:37:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ivar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Hannible Lector wasn't at all when his relationships ended, burp! Seriously, one person can have a lot more invested in the relationship than the other. The more love and caring a person has put into it the more pain there is when it ends. But if you're a sociopath, then you can just bury your ex's (figuratively, hopefully!). Nobody likes to fail, but you learn more form your failures than you do from your successes, they say. Focus on what was gained, not what has been lost; the good, not the bad. I guess that means live every day, appreciate every day for what it is, learn and grow.
2006-12-28 05:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i am in that position now. people say the reason why my last two relationships failed was because i couldn't trust them, maybe the first one, but the second was cheating on me and that was why i didn't trust him. think it was hard to gain my trust before? try now. and that is my fault, i need to learn that (hopefully) not all guys have the same ulterior motives and are just using you like the other two. but that comes with time, and i need to find someone that i think i can trust. it's going to be hard, and i am honestly scared to be in a relationship right now because i don't want to end up in the same position another year down the road.
2006-12-28 05:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that it depends on your outlook of the situation. Sure it will hurt but you can determine how traumatic the situation is to you. Choose to look at it as a learning exprerience and decide not to make the same mistakes again. If you can find the good in a situation at least then the pain is for a reason.
2006-12-28 05:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. because of the word FAIL. u feel like a failure. it is the same as when u succeed at things, u will build on ur confidence. if u fail, it tears ur confidence to shreds.
i think what people need to remember is that relationships are not a game to be played and won or lost... it is more than that. it is finding the RIGHT PERSON out there who wants to take care of u, and who u want to take care of. Voluntarily. how is that any kind of Game? it is hard work, and it is only worth it when u find the one u Want to do it with.
i believe people are starting to treat marriage like dating. dating is the period where u get to know eachother, date other people, find what u like. then when u pick a special person who has potential, u see if they have marrying qualities. if they dont', Don't Marry Them! if they do, by all means continue the relationship. when u get married, u maek that vow to stick by eachother no matter what. its' that worth it to seek the one u WANT to stick by no matter what and then make the vow, not hope that when u get married u will stick by eachother. u have to KNOW it.
good luck to us all~
2006-12-28 05:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they do. I know that things that have happenend to me in my past relatuonships have caused me to be more weary of in new ones. I put up guards and I deny that person of having a fair chance. I think it sort of leaves you scarred / scared. Yet even though I know not every person is like the other I still have the notion to automatically think that person is doing the things the last person did.
2006-12-28 05:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by tiffany s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think so. Human beings have conditioned behavior. You are who you are because of what you've experienced. Therefore, if you get wrecked, you're probably going to put up some walls and develop trust/commitment issues, etc.
2006-12-28 05:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by Peter N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think people do. I know I have!! Makes me think twice about whether love is a beautiful thing or just a thing that happens in fairy tales!
2006-12-28 05:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by cHiKiBaBe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES- and depending on the reason why the relationship failed... it makes the next relationship harder for that reason.
2006-12-28 05:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by guawsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i am going through that
2006-12-28 05:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋