2006-12-28 05:33:25 · 27 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am going to be the screaming minority here from what I have already read but here goes.
I met my husband and it was scary, almost too good to be true. We had both been burned bad and paid dearly both emotionally and financially. I love him more than anything in life. We moved in together a year later completely and totally committed and knew it was forever. We both have 2 children from priors. We had a son together and all was already perfect.
We made the decision to marry because we WANTED that next level. We married early this year and I really expected no reall changes. WAS I WRONG....
When we married, I was able to totally let go of insecurities I didn't even realize were there. We are a true team. I love him more than I ever have.... We work hard to maintain the awesome relationship and now our marriage. I have always dreamed of having the kind of marriage we are blessed with now.
I would marry him again, I only wish we had met years ago!! I cannot imagine my life without him and his girls. This is only my opinion but I am passionate about it.
Happy New Year!!!
2006-12-28 05:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by RaLoh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I do not. Besides if it were like marriage then why not get married? Because the divorce isn't free? When living together it's too easy to just break it off and leave with no attachments. When married you benefit from tax breaks as well as commitment. Marriage is like signing a contract, in which both parties agree to commitment and their vows. Marriage is something that brings two individuals into 1 couple. Marriage allows for security within the relationship as you are both lawfully obligated to eachother. There is nothing wrong with just living together, it just seems to others there is a lack of commitment between you two. And if you two are committed to eachother, why not get married? Really it's a choice of what you want for yourself. If you don't want marriage then don't get married. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 05:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by zero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been proven a long time ago that living together is no test of compatability or anything else. The reason is that each subconsiously knows that the whole thing can fall apart on a minutes notice, so each is on a long courtship show of personality.
The question that you each must ask is, if you're both truly committed to each other, what is your objection to marriage ?
It would have been impossible for me to say to my wife before we were married, " I love you, and want to spend the rest of my life with you, but I won't marry you ".
Does that sound like really true love ?.
2006-12-28 05:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a huge difference between being married and not. It's the level of the commitment. It's saying I absolutely believe you are the one for me and I'm not holding out for something better. It's saying you are the one I want to have children with (and no you should not be having kids out of wedlock...statistics and studies everywhere will tell you that) and spend the rest of my life with. It's not about how much you love someone...its about how much you are willing to stay and commit when the relationship isn't easy. And it will someday be not easy. Without a marriage license the escape clause is much more evident. The commitment is not the same.
2016-03-28 22:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are truly committed, why aren't you married?
You know that living together w/o being married isn't the same thing as being married, you want someone to agree w/you because it will ease your mind about the topic. It's a cop-out.
That's how you know a person is truly committed, through marriage.
2006-12-28 05:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by Leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If two people are truly committed, then marriage is what people do to show this. If some one doesn't want to get married, then though they may love the person, they are not committed.
2006-12-28 05:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by kyeann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, they say getting married is a whole lot different when you're just boyfriend girlfriends, so I wouldnt say their the same. Im in a relationship for 9 years(and still havent got married yet) and i still dread the day that I get to live with him because i know its gonna be another major adjustment for both of us. you'll never really truly know someone unless you marry him or her.
2006-12-28 05:37:36 · answer #7 · answered by z_butter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if two people are lucky enough to find eachother, fall in love, stay in love, honor respect and care for eachother, then their relationship speaks for itself and marriage is only necessary if those two people believe it is.
Personally, I am married and love being married, but don't let anyone tell you the perks are better because the only perks that count are the ones you give eachother and parchment paper doesn't alter the value of those items.
2006-12-28 05:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by Liligirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. unless you are husband and wife, it is not anything like a marriage. Marriage is two people vowing to eachother that they will stay together forever. No matter how committed you are, it aint the same. And to that other person's answer: choke collar? geez...
2006-12-28 05:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by shellybelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, its not the same. Just like being great friends and caring for each other and spending time together is not the same as being boyfriend and girlfriend.
2006-12-28 05:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by kvan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋