I put the mother in law in her place. After 12 years in the family, she had it coming. Your thoughts?

Question

I am merely asking anyone to share your own stories and My huband is the one who told her he didn't appreciate the way she has acted.

Answer 1

I know we have been there and when my husband finally decided to speak his mind it changed everything. It was difficult at first, silence. We wouldn't call her, we waited for her to call and wow to the difference. She still wont own up to the fact of what she did that day, however she does think twice before making comments that hurt. Or if the comments are made my hubby will say "Now what did you mean by that?" (he says it nicely however wants her to realize that we heard it and it wasn't necessary to say)

Hoping your confrontation has a positive effect! Good luck!

Best wishes and here's to a great 2007 with New beginnings!

Answer 2

I don't know how severely you put her in her place but if she had it coming...it was probably good for you to get your feeling off of your chest. Hopefully you don't have to see her often. Perhaps you should write her an e-mail saying that you're sorry for the way you said what you did but you've been having these feeling for quite some time. Tell her that you didn't want to hurt her feelings or embarrass her and that you love her but she needs to back off. How does your spouse feel about what you said? Maybe they can do damage control for you. Good luck!

Answer 3

My mother in law is now passed away, we didn't get along well when she was alive. She let me know regularly how she thought things should be done and I listened and my husband (her son) and I would still do as we felt was right. We never allowed her to interfere with our marriage and I was careful not to put my husband in the middle, feeling that he had to choose between us. He told me he saw her push me and because I acted the more mature one, he usually took my side. She loves her son, is what I kept telling myself, no one would ever be good enough in her eyes. Just remember, you'll probably be there long after she's gone, treat her with respect, but don't let her hurt you or your relationship with your husband. Good Luck! = )

Answer 4

Okay here's one for you....

Xmess this year (yes that's how I meant to spell it LOL) my mother in law sent us a box of presents because we are already on the outs with her. My hubby and I decided it would be best not to open our gifts in front of the kids due to her tendency to pull psychological BS...so one night we opened our gifts. My hubby got a $50 gift card and a book about what a loved son he is...a book full of short poems...okay no tricks there except for perhaps an attempt at a s s kissing. I opened up my tiny box and found - a refrigerator magnet!!!!! I laughed as I pulled of the wings on it and dissembled it. I went to the computer and emailed my mother in law telling her how pathetic she was and how I pitied her that she felt she had to resort to something so childish. I also told her that it doesn' t really matter because the people who matter to me love me...

She got all pissed off at my letter and wrote to my husband via email that I had written her this awful email (he was there when I wrote it and proofread it before I sent it LMAO)...She wrote that she sent it to me so that I would not feel embarrassed and so she would not make waves or cause trouble! She said that I continually harrass her with emails (haven't written her in over a year) and now she's given up her Yahoo account because of me. She told my hubby she has a new email address which was evident by the email DUH!!! and to not give it out to me. She said if I continue to harrass her she will get me for harrassment. Also she said from now on I will get what I deserve for the holidays - nothing....HAHAHA she's such a b i t c h!!!!

My hubby wrote her a typed letter that he signed and he sent back my magnet and his own gifts. He finally spoke up to her and asked her why she always needed to f u c k things up and try to blame me for everything when all I do is stick up for myself...I am so proud of him!!!

You have every right to put your mother in law in her place!!!! Amen Sistah!!!!!!!

Answer 5

Good! I'm proud of you. Sometimes you have to put your foot down. I called my ex-mother-in-law a b.....and she deserved it. She gave my two little sons a purse and dolls to play with.They were very small and didn't care what they had to play with. Next thing I know my ex-mother-in-law started calling my two sons queers.I got very upset and let her know that she was a b....That was the 2nd time that she was called that by me. Her stupid son would not defend me at all.He was a momma's boy.We divorced years later and they are both dead.

Answer 6

you're a good hearted person with admire to your husband and his relationships along with his family participants. in the experience that your mom in regulation isn't able to rejoice with you - set your limits civilly and communicate construction your marriage and your different family participants relationships. She has to admire your rights on your very own kitchen and if she does not - quit inviting her over and anticipate her to ask why - or bypass the her homestead and enable her prepare dinner. good success.

Answer 7

Well, I don't know what happened in your situation, but had a similar one when I was married. I held my tongue for years until she told my daughter that she didn't have to listen to me if she (her grandmother) told her to do something else. I had to put her in her place and things went a whole lot better after that. Sometimes you just have to stand up for yourself.

Answer 8

The marriage is between you and your wife/husband, not a interfering mother in-law. There could be repercussions but your mate should be at your side not hers. Good for you.

Answer 9

Well- you seem kind of smug about it. Maybe if you told what happened and why we could be on your side, but as of now- you should respect your elders and show kindness. Maybe it would have been more productive for the sake of all of the family to take her to lunch and explain how she was making you feel. "putting her in her place" just sounds so childish.... thanks for the thumbs down I am about to receive- but you asked!

Answer 10

You'll have to state the facts before I can opine on your situation.