I was dating my girlfriend for 1.5 years. We had a very strong connection and she constantly referred to me as the only one who has ever understood her and her only friend. The whole time I completely adored her. Her parents did not know about us at all... because they were extremely strict so our relationship was a secret. She was not ready for sex so I just waited, I did not pressure her at all. We did oral/ handjobs but she always seemed like she was being self conscious and a few weeks ago she just stopped. She didn't touch me at all, she said "she wasn't ready" for that either! How can that be? I could not help but feel like there was something wrong with me and I couldn't handle that feeling any more so I let her go. I treated this girl like a princess and I miss her and she was my closest friend. Did I do the right thing?
2006-12-28 05:30:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are both 19... her parents are overly strict.
2006-12-28 05:38:03 · update #1
she loved to dry hump, and she talked dirty and was a tease. I was being patient and she was the one who put my hand down her pants first. Still feel the same way?
2006-12-28 05:45:22 · update #2
Im not ready for sex, and I think that oral sex is almost the same. She probably realized that it was bad. You shouldn't have broke it off just because she wouldn't do what you wanted her to. She probably wasn't comfortable with the whole thing from the beginning.
2006-12-28 05:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by Meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just feels a little uncomfortable at the moment. You really should try to figure out whats the problem so you guys can fix it together. Going around confused is not going to help either of you or your relationship. Try communicating, its the best thing to do in my opinion
2006-12-28 05:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by kvan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what your saying is that you dumped someone you say you care about because she wouldn't jerk you off anymore ? And your here to ask us if it was right ? Do I really need to answer that for you ? You just got done saying she was very self conscious doing those things with you so didn't it occur to you that she was just doing it because she felt like she had to ? She has realized that she is not ready.
2006-12-28 05:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know in your heart if you made the right decision. it's going to hurt right now, you have to wait for time to heal these wounds. if sexual activity isn't that important to you then you understand what she is talking about, but if it is, then you need to stay apart, regardless of what you think. give her time to think about what she wants. that is the only thing you can do right now.
2006-12-28 05:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys seem young.
2006-12-28 05:34:07 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋