Weddings continue to be portrayed as a wonderful and even a necessary day for the bride, but after so many women spend thousands of dollars on a not so perfect wedding day... why do the rest of us (women) still continue to throw money out the window to overpriced venders, wedding halls, accessories and dresses?? It just seems insane to me!... (unless of course someone else is paying for it.) That same amount of money could be spent on the down payment of a home, or a trip around the world, or a couple of cars.
2006-12-28 05:27:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't have changed a thing - neither would my wife. We were surrounded by family and friends, married by a family friend. My wife wore her mother's wedding gown and we marched out the hall to the strains of Chopin's Military Polonaise....I get choked up just thinking about it and it was 24 years ago....
2006-12-28 05:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could redo my wedding .... I've thought about that a lot in the 5 1/2 years since I got married. I had a huge wedding that was stressful to plan and flew by too fast. I had about 2 dozen guests not bother to show even though they rsvp'd that they'd be there. Each plate was $42, whether the guest ate it or not. The delicious wedding cake was largely wasted because the hotel didn't wrap it up for the guests to take home and everyone filled up on dessert before cake. I live in the south but had a Yankee-style wedding. Many of my guests didn't "get it" and I was disappointed ... until I saw it happen over and over at other weddings.
I wish I had planned a "weddingmoon" at a Sandals resort. I saw three on my honeymoon, and they were so sweet. One couple was adorable! She wore a white slip dress with a colorful floral wreath in her hair and he wore khakis and a button down, sleeves rolled up and ends untucked. They spend far less than us, probably got a longer honeymoon (we could only afford 5 days) and are just as married as my husband and I are.
Really, what do you "need" for a wedding? A bride, a groom, a few close friends and family members, rings, a legal document and someone to do the ceremony. The dress and tux is overrated and expensive and uncomfortable. Videographers and photographers are everywhere and they come with the package deals.
The wedding is one day. It is not the goal. Marriage is the goal. It is, hopefully, forever. Good luck!
2006-12-28 06:24:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a $70 justice of the peace, a gazebo setting that turned out to have graffiti in it (my best friend told me to trust her - it was beautiful...out of state so I didn't get to check it out in advance), a cheesy motel and no honey moon. Even the night we got married my hubby spent the night crapping his guts out...true romance I tell ya! The funny thing is the check to the JP bounced and I had to pay him with a money order to make the marriage legal HAHA!!!
If I could redo my wedding, I would have a simple ceremony with a justice of the peace in a nicer setting. I would have a real wedding dress this time (last time I had a purple and brown thing on that my friend gave me since I was 32 weeks pregnant). I would only invite my sisters and I would have our 5 children involved in the ceremony. His parents and my parents would not be there because our parents are too dysfunctional. I think I would probably put more emphasis on having a honey moon since we never had one.
2006-12-28 05:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband & I got married in Hawaii...just the 2 of us...nobody else was there....with all our families blessings. It was awesome not to have to worry about anything. We had a great planner in Hawaii that booked hair & make-up, license appointments, a limo, photographer, minister, etc. It was smooooooooth! The only think I would change would be to get ready for the wedding at a better place. We were on a cruise, so I got dressed at the place where I got hair/make-up done...ANYHOO...I basically had to get my dress on in a closet! I got dirt on the bottom of my dress & kind of felt unimportant on an important day. It was a VERY minor thing, but it would've been nice to have a better place to get ready. Other than that glitch it was PERFECT! :) We had a Luau reception with family/friends when we got home, so they were all happy too :)
2006-12-28 08:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by katy123abc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I plan to propose to my daughters that we will either pay for their dream wedding, pay for a small wedding ad give some cash for a house/car/whatever, or they can have more cash for those things and have a teeny tiny wedding. It is insane what people spend now. I heard the average is 24 thousand. That's nuts! I realize it's supposed to be a special day- but dang! My wedding cost 2 thousand- wedding, reception, and a weekend honeymoon. We did it modestly. We used a stereo system for music, and had all our family take photos. Everything turned out awesome!
2006-12-28 05:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would re-think the wedding colors. (teal and rose-1994) the rose was the worst color for my matron of honor who is a natural redhead. and the teal didn't look good on anybody. Otherwise everything came out just beautiful. We spent the most money on the food at the reception but people are still talking about it to this day. The money was well spent in my opinion.
2006-12-31 07:17:13 · answer #6 · answered by Yo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my flowers were a disaster, i would have went with the first vendor i met with instead of switching, at least she's still in business today, can't say the same for the guy i used. my flowers were falling apart during photos at my house before the ceremony, then at the hall, my nephew was running (granted he shouldn't have been running), and slipped on a flower that had fallen out of one of the bouquets and ended up getting 7 stitches in his forehead from the fall. He was able to make it back in time for the end of our reception, but he was hestitant about going to his other uncle's wedding the following year!!
2006-12-28 05:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by Mauntie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is costing 20,000 and at times it feels like this is nuts... but I have a house, a new car and we do well for ourselves... I always dreamed of having a nice wedding and I am only going to do it once!!!! Seriously, if anything every happened where I need to get married again, I just elope. I think it's nice to have one nice wedding but when you get into the 2nd, 3rd and even 4th white big wedding, that's where it gets to be insane.
2006-12-28 05:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do everything differently, I would have eloped! I wanted to but my husband comes from a big family so he wanted a big wedding but I had a horrible time and never even look at my wedding pictures.
I completely argee with you about the money part: it's ridiculous to spend that much money on one single day!
2006-12-28 05:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by skygirl_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I'd done differently is I'd remembered that I had a pretty cream silk suit in the closet that I could have worn instead of borrowing a very nice dress from my soon to be sister in law. That and probably not let my mom take the pictures (she took them and only gave me the negatives instead of a set of pictures)
2006-12-28 07:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋