I've noticed lately an abundance of people acting appauled when I mention having another babby. I have a 9 month old, and I've been married to my husband over a year now. We have some financial issues, but were not sinking in a ton of debt or having things re-poed. I so much as look at a baby with interst and people say "oh no, girl, don't even think about it. All except my in-laws, (sisters) "it's about time for a baby brother dontcha think?" they say. Why would peple be acting one way or the other about when 'I' have children. BTW I'm 25 and my husband is 27. We have insurance.
2006-12-28 05:22:29 · 26 answers · asked by kikumatsu 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Hi. I am a mother of two and I am considering being pregnant one more time. My husband and I do not discuss our family plans with anyone other than ourselves. By bringing it up you invitte opinions and who really cares what anyone else thinks on such a personal decision. If you ask for other's opinions, be prepared to get them otherwise just make your own plans. When you are pregnant again I will bet that they will all be congratulating you.
2006-12-28 05:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let it get to you too much! I don't know why people are that way. I have a 3 yr old and a 10 month old. (We are 24 and 27) This last time I found out I was pregnant I really didn't get a congratulations from anyone. Especially my in laws who said "well maybe it will at least be a girl so that you will have one of each" (it was a boy by the way) the worse part is we still want 2 more for a total of four... there's no telling how that will go over. It's really no one elses business. No one is ever completely financially prepared for a child. As long as you have the means to support them and plently of love to give them then I say go for it! Once you have him/her most likely no one will say anything because .. well obviously because babies are so adorable. Plus the second is never as expensive as the first because you already have some of the necessities (as long as you saved them) and you know what you need and those things that the first time you thought you HAD to have but never used. Having been an only child myself I was determined for my son to have a sibling! You are the one that will live with them and struggle! It's your choice not theres! The joy definitely out weighs the struggles! Best of luck to you!! It's your life .. sorry you are getting such a hard time about it!
2006-12-28 05:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just the time frame is all. My WHOLE family thought I was crazy and it was this HUGE accident I got pregnant....my daughter was 10 months also and we found out I was expecting! We stopped using any protection and said okay, when you're ready God, we are too. lol, didn't take long! We are confortable too, but could ALWAYS use more money lol! We have some credit card debt and his student loans, but so? I know people who are 40 with no kids in more debt than we are! I am only 21 too and my husband 26. Do as your feel and people will come around, lol, my family did! Now my mom is even excited and throwing me a baby shower! Good Luck!!
2006-12-28 05:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by angie_laffin927 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is your body, mind & soul. If you and your husband think it is time to try for another baby, go for it! If people are saying "oh no girl" they are either worried about the outcome (for whatever reason), jealous, or are trying to amp you up. Unfortunately I think it is working (the amping part). Being 25 years old and having your second child is not too young. As you well know there are kids out there having kids who obviously are not married. Now with your sister-in-laws, they will say that.
I feel you should not worry about what others think and start paying mind to you and your family. Most of the population is in debt, if it will not hurt you guys...GO FOR IT!
2006-12-28 05:30:01 · answer #4 · answered by no 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about what other people say. If you and your husband want more kids then that is your business, no one else's. Many people don't think that you should have more then one child in a family and many people don't think you should have two young children at the same time.
Yes, it's a bit harder, but you will still be in the routine of getting up all the time and diapers and so forth. It's better then waiting 12 or 13 years between kids (trust me, I know).
2006-12-28 05:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I found out I was pregnant with my second child, my son was only three months old. I had a friend say something so rude i'll never forget it. She asked me why I was having so many kids so soon in my marriage and scorned me with the ways it would ruin my marriage. She now has 6 children and I still have only 2. She is now divorced and i've been married for 10 years. Don't listen to what other people have to say about your life. Children can live without money, what they need is love and as long as you've got it to give. Have yourself another baby. That is, if you want to. It's your life. Don't let haters ruin it for you!
2006-12-28 05:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
i cant imagine its any of their business. Im 32, 9 months pregnant with 11 yr old twin girls. I have had a difficult pregnancy and am single and people, even complete strangers continue to ask if Im going to have my tubes tied during my c-section and act suprised and even ask why when I say no. People can be so ugly and nosey sometimes. Its really just not their business. The only concern I would have is maybe pregnancies so close together can be hard physically on your body. Other than a concern for you they should stay out of it.
2006-12-28 05:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by symply2cute 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have another baby when you and your husband are ready for another one. I have four kids myself and kids are alot of work; well worth it , but nevertheless a great deal of work. Why do people say this to you?? Everyone likes to get into other people's business and the majority of people are this way. When people asked me this I told them "We were practicing" and said nothing else. And don't worry if you have an only child either. You can devote all your time, money, and energy on one. Good luck and I won't ask you.
2006-12-28 05:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about what anyone says. It is not any of there business unless you are going to ask them to help raise your children, and I would politely tell them so. I have 4 kids and am 26, my husband is 28. You would not believe some of the things I was told especially with number 4. I politely told them,'They were not my husband, and would not be responsible for my child and, that all my children were very well cared for. So not to worry about my life, but to worry about their own.
2006-12-28 07:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16 month old and am 8 months pregnant, I always get mixed reactions. Some people are glad and act excited (even though I don't know them) and some act like I have done something stupid, like it is shameful for me to be having another kid when mine is so young. Well you know what it is what my husband and me both wanted and that is all that matters and the same goes for you. Don't listen to what others say do what is right for your family.
2006-12-28 05:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋