Weve been goin out for a while now. it seems that he never talks 2 me and is forever avoiding me. for xmas he got a me a pair of horrible tacky cheap eerings. is that really how much i mean 2 him. i dont know what to do. HELP! ?
2006-12-28 05:10:25 · 30 answers · asked by La lily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it? Is it that you dont love him? Or that you are just feeling miserable because of the lack of atention he is showing towards you?
2006-12-28 05:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by o0p2k0o 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is this guy is avoiding you or what is his excuse? Is he in school or is he pursuing his career right now? If he is, then perhaps that's part of the reason. If he's broke and struggling to get his money right, then it might not be cool for you to trip about cheap earrings because perhaps that's all he can actually afford right now. What's there to love? Did you ever get into a bad arguement prior to him starting to avoid you? Do you guys only hangout to get sexual? Try to think over those things and reflect on who's putting in the most effort most of the time. Remember that one can love you a who lot, but if they don't express it in a way that works for you, then you can't enjoy a good relationship with them. Be true to what you want and what you feel you need and please be true to him. Move on now and be happy if you feel you don't love him anymore.
2006-12-28 13:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Justcool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree with him to have a trial seperation, agree a time span say 2 weeks. then see how you feel and he feels, absence makes the heart grow fonder if you love in the first place.
agree the seperation on the basis that you are not sure how you feel anymore and how he feels.
its hard but it will be worth it.
make or break.
goodluck
and tell him about the earrings, say what you feel dont hoard up feelings, if you have any sort of relationship then frank talking should be acceptable between you. if you dont feel you can say this then its not such a great relationship as it is.
2006-12-28 13:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by matured 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. guys suck at shopping.
2. it was probably a surprise to him that he was supposed to get you something, and someone told him he better do it.
3. Presents are presents. You're never expected to receive them. You're supposed to be grateful for them.
Now that we've got those life lessons in head for the rest of you life, dump him. :-) He's ignoring you because he's hoping you'll lose interest and dump him. Just let it go, if it were a match life would be easier. Don't forget- that's what dating is about- finding someone who meets your standards and interests. You're not committed to making it work no matter what just because you said you'd go out with him. Just let it go.
2006-12-28 13:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I guess talking in the open is a good option. However, if you want to be more inventive, you could text him from a phone number e won't know, explain you've seen him around and think he's the hottest thing in town, does he fancy meeting up.If he texts back for more you have your answer....
2006-12-28 14:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Opt for a trial separation. This may spur him into action. Look no further than this at the moment. Things will get better. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
2006-12-28 13:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the romance is over, do both of you a favor and break up, and move on, nothing wrong with being single. It's better than a luke warm relationship
2006-12-28 13:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound quite young and have alot to learn, My boyfriend of 14years told me tonight that he hates me don't know what I've done but he won't get away speaking to me like that and as for christmas presents he bought me nothing. If he loves me or not I don't care I will enjoy my life I have looks my own money my job and I don't need him (Goodbye loser, my boyfriend not you) If your still with him next year give the earrings to his mum and don't forget treat them mean keep them keen. If he loves you he will chase you if not good riddance x
2006-12-28 14:32:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel so insecure in this relationship then it is not working is it?
If you feel less than loved and respected would you recommend a girlfriend stay with a guy like that?
Move on- why waste time- Mr. Right is coming soon.
2006-12-28 13:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you fear that you don't love your boyfriend anymore then you probably don't. I'm sure that you care about him but it's probably time to move on if you're questioning it. Just say to him "hey...I've noticed that we haven't been spending a lot of time together...is there a reason for this?" Just ask him. You should probably trust your gut. I'm sure that he cares about you too since you did get a present. Good luck!
2006-12-28 13:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is that you think he doesn't love YOU anymore? I know that probably will end the chemistry for both of you. I say split from this relationship and move on. Be a free spirit and search for your soulmate we all have one out there.
2006-12-28 13:15:52 · answer #11 · answered by SugarCookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋