I haven't dated in 23 years - divorced last year - and I'm starting to date again. However, I'm not sure of the "rules" anymore. I'm going on a first date with a man I met through an internet dating site and he suggested the restaurant. So does that mean that I pay for my meal or how do I handle that?
2006-12-28 05:10:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shouldnt have to pay anything, if he does want you to pay your half, then its not a date, or he's simply a jerk..!
2006-12-28 05:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never plan on paying for the entire meal yourself, although you should make sure you have enough money to cover everything on your own just in case the guy turns out to be a flake. At the end of the meal, I usually ask if the person I am with would prefer to split the bill. You can discuss it at that point.
With that said, the real answer is - if he is a gentleman, and worth keeping around, he will pick up the tab for the first date.
2006-12-28 05:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Centaur Girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am not sure where some of these folks are from--but where I am from the guy always picks up the check, opens doors, etc. Once the relationship is establised that will change but he is in the position where he needs to impress you. No, he doesn't need to blow a bunch of cash, but he also doesn't need to offer to take you to dinner to a place he can't afford. If he doesn't pick up the tab-find a man who would like to romance you a bit and educate this man on your reason for bailing. Furthermore, don't offer to buy drinks or anything. After a few dates (if it goes that far) tell him you would like to take him out for a change and you control the evening by picking the place and paying. I promise as a male he will be floored at the invitation and respect your kindness more this way than any other.
2006-12-28 06:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of it quite is rather anticipated for adult males to pay in the event that they're the asker yet while they're the askee then they'd desire to bypass out and while the verify comes furnish even although she would desire to pay. P.S. we've been taught that in case you do no longer at hire make the worry of furnish then you are rude and probable won't get a 2nd date or be seen as considerate.
2016-12-18 20:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If He invited you to dinner the generally the rule is He pays for the dinner. If You invited Him then expect to pay..if either of you say causually we should meet for lunch then thats when typically you both each pay for your own unless one or the other says "I Got It when the check comes."
I n the case you described I would hope that He would be the one paying...and meeting at a resturant is a good thing..be there early and don't go straight home..you don't want to be followed! Your safety should be the first thing on your mind!
2006-12-28 05:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Useev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the man that ask you out pays for whole evening.. Going dutch is something of the past unless they ask to less make this a dutch date. If they told me that, I would be forced to say no, this a American date, the man always pays for everything if it is a considered date. If it's just two friends going to eat sure you would pay for your part , but never on a date, that is a NO, NO !!!!!.
2006-12-28 05:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wouldnt be strange if you wanted to pay for half of it. He would normally pay for it since he set it up and vice versa. Then you can pay for the next one. However, if the date does not work out you may want to just split it. It is also a great thing to discuss while at dinner, then you can judge if he is a stiff or not. good luck
2006-12-28 05:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Soncho 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well normally the man has to pay for the meal, but if u r not sure about it u can always bring enough money for the both of u. or when the bill comes act as if u want to take it to see what his reaction would be. if he let u pay the whole thing don't stick around. if he make u pay half, lose him right after the diner.
2006-12-28 05:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can always offer but most likely he will say hes got it maybe you could pay the tip or something if you feel the need but really if he asked you on a date he should pay
2006-12-28 05:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to establish that before you guys go out. That's what me and my boyfriend did. I asked him are we going dutch, and he asked me what does that mean and I told him it meant I pay for me and he pay for him. Now that we are together we still kinda do that which is fine with me. Like we might go to the movies and I will but the tickets while he pays for everything else, but if you ask and he agrees to go dutch you can't be disappointed. Again asking are we going dutch is also a way to lighten the question. Good luck.
2006-12-28 05:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were married that long I am assuming that you are in your 40's or so. Being in that catagory myself I would not go out with anyone that didn't think by inviting me to dinner that they shouldn't expect to pick up the bill.
If he acts funny about the bill after you eat then just pay your half and run.....
2006-12-28 05:13:33 · answer #11 · answered by Wendy M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋