my wedding ring is damaged and it costs too much to repair, we are thinking about getting it replaced instead, but what do you do about wearing it? Do you renew your vows or can you just have it blessed? or can you just wear it (somehow this option doesn't seem right and doesn't appeal to me)?
2006-12-28 05:08:42 · 13 answers · asked by Mauntie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
To Etiquette Girl - "I think it would be highly unsentimental and shallow to get a replacement wedding ring. Will you be getting a new spouse when he's damaged, too? "
My wedding ring is very important to me, however I have spent money in the past month to have it fixed and now they are saying that it will cost more to fix it with no guarantees. I want to be able to wear my ring, however, the diamonds are going to fall out, and that would break my heart. It's not shallow, it's trying to be reasonable and show that I am committed to my marriage. Wearing it around my neck, doesn't seem like the right thing to do. You're entitled to your opinion, but back off with the bad vibe, everybody else took it as it was presented. I have a situation that I am trying to address, I've never had to deal with this before, so I was looking for experience and ideas.
2006-12-29 00:20:26 · update #1
It's really up to the individual. When my husband lost his ring, instead of renewing our vows or a ceremony that would embarass him in front of family and friends for losing the wedding band, he went out and purchased another, we had a nice meal together and I slipped the new ring on his finger while reminding him that our love was still as special as it was on the day we were married.
2006-12-28 05:21:25 · answer #1 · answered by JenV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What makes a marriage real is that is done under God. People way back when like while Jesus walked the earth im sure didnt even wear wedding rings. But if it will make you feel better have a priest of a pastor say a prayer with you. Of course if you want you can always renew your vows. Just letting you know its not all nessacary but i was you id probaly just do the prayer wit preacher thing. Good luck.
2006-12-28 05:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by fine_ass_fatty21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
My hubby gave me an engagement ring that his parents had him give me. It turned out it was from my mother in law's child molesting father to her mother. I was so disgusted by it that I didn't wear it long after I found that out...the ring also had damage to the prongs and so I put it away and just wore the wrap that my hubby and I found at a jewelry store that somewhat fit it.
Once my hubby had the money a few years later he brought me out to a jewelry store and let me pick out a set I would like and he bought me that one to wear instead. I put the other rings in a drawer and I just wear my new set. We didn't have to renew our vows or have any blessing...then again we were too broke to have a "real wedding" so we eloped with a justice of the peace.
You could always have the original stone from your wedding ring put into a new setting so that you are still wearing the diamond from your original set. It wouldn't cost more than buying a whole new set to do that...
2006-12-28 05:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what feels right to you. If you want to renew your vows and have your rings blessed go that way. My husband and I renewed our vows on our honeymoon, 4 monts after our wedding and it was great, we plan to do it again. I think renewing your vows is a really good thing to do, it reminds you why you married your husband in a way that nothing can.
2006-12-28 05:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by 2littleiggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it repaired, save up money to get it repaired later, or wear it as a pendant on a chain.
I think it would be highly unsentimental and shallow to get a replacement wedding ring. Will you be getting a new spouse when he's damaged, too?
2006-12-28 09:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my parents were married, my dad could only afford a small band for my mom. Several years later he gave her a new much larger wedding band with several diamonds on it. They didnt have anything renewed or blessed, she just wore it proudly. Its only a symbol of your love, not a guarantee against divorce. Good luck
2006-12-28 05:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just wear it. My mom just had a cheap band, and then my dad got her a better one years later that she just wears. If a special anniversary is coming up you could consider renewing your vows in a small ceromony. That would be special for both of you.
2006-12-28 05:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by steffiegirl815 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in marriage is important love,understanding and respect,
not some renew vows because of ring
2006-12-28 05:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by mirka_1412 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can just wear it. If it truely bothers you then have it blessed. It is only a symbol of your marriage and not actually what is holding it together.
I have had to replace mine twice!
2006-12-28 05:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by plantladywithcfids 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wear it..All it is is a piece of jewlery..But if you don't feel the same about it. Do whatever you need to in order to feel better.
2006-12-28 05:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by lovedrunk18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋