My bf said when we bought this house we could get another dog since our dogs (he has 2 and i have 1) are 6 yrs and older, we could get a pup. The neighbor were giving Chihuahua's away and i got the smallest one for the kids christmas The lady said IF ur bf doesn't want it you can bring it back. We said ok and took the pup home. Bf fell in love with it knowing we didn't need another dog to feed. He named it and played with it . We had the pup for 3 weeks, when kids left for xmas and he and i got into a fight, he took the pup and give it away Lied to me& kids, They were hurt and upset now they want to go home and not stay with him they do not like him any more Now i have to choose between my bf and kids over him giving this pup away and not getting it back from his mom BF says its my fault for get'n a pup in the first place IS IT? or is it his for giving it away when the kids were with their dad for christmas OR is it his mom's fault for not giving the pup back to my
2006-12-28 05:05:12 · 16 answers · asked by Majenta 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Oh dump the BF!!!
He didn't have to take the pup withhim so its his fault.
2006-12-28 05:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many issues here. I'll address them one at a time. Bear with me. : )
Your main question is who to side with and my honest answer is the kids. If your BF would give away a family member without even consulting with you, he obviously doesn't value your opinion. Your BF tried to hurt you by giving away an innocent in this whole thing - he can't be trusted and has little ethics. Dogs are not pawns to be used in fights and ayone who thinks that they are has such little ethics and morals that they shouldn't be allowed near your kids. This on top of you saying that he lied about it, this does not sound like a winner.
Now, the other issue is why the dog was brought into the home in the first place. A free pup is never a good reason to get one. Especially a poorly bred Chi. If you couldn't afford to feed it (as you allude to), why did you take it? Kids should not be given animals as gifts, much less as a holiday gift. I don't think that your house was ready for another dog, but that doesn't make what your boyfriend did right. It's not *your* fault that he gave it away and it's not his mom's fault for accepting it.
2006-12-28 05:34:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children would ALWAYS come FIRST before ANYONE. I think you should leave the boyfriend and be WITH your kids. Also,I feel his "mother" is just as he is in NOT giving the puppy back KNOWING full well it was the children's. I would think it is YOUR fault for letting the boyfriend do this to your children in the first place. He needs to be kicked to the curb,or you and the children move out and make a life for yourselves. Tell the children you will get them another puppy when you are all settled and can get one.
2006-12-28 05:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question isn't about a dog. It is about the relationship between humans, and from what you write here, this relationship isn't on solid ground.
Myself, I always placed my kids' needs first. I considered that to be my job as 'mom'.
Your bf giving away a 'present' that belonged to your kids indicates that he might not be an appropriate roll model for your kids. This is a childish, spiteful act, IMO.
I would ask this question on a relationship forum rather than a dog board.
2006-12-28 05:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lori R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the sounds of it, you really didn't need a pup in the first place. But you both are to blame in this one, you for getting the pup, him for giving it away( and lying).
2006-12-28 05:16:07 · answer #5 · answered by myheart20061018 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your BF is a jerk. Personally I would never choose a man over my children. He did it to be mean and for no other reason and then he wants to blame it on you? Not your fault - but the next time it will be if you stay with the a**hole. What will he do next? He's the same type of guy that, should you ever be foolish enough to have children with him, will fight you for custody. Not because he wants the child but he wants to have leverage to hurt you.
2006-12-28 05:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by PRS 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's both his and his mom's fault. The puppy wasn't his to give away and then you said that he lied about giving it away to your children. Then his mom is being very selfish in keeping the pup from your children when it doesn't legally belong to her to begin with. I suggest that you call your local police dept. and ask if you can get any assistance in retrieving the puppy from his mom. Good luck in getting him back for your kids sakes.
Oh by the way any "man" that would give a puppy that doesn't belong to him to his mother and then LIE about it needs to be kicked to the curb IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You and your children are WAAAAAAAAAAAY too good for him! You children are you 1st priority!
2006-12-28 05:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would be crushed if I was in your position and I was this summer, my mom got rid of my beautiful puppy and gave it to some stranger.
I think its not your fault at all and its his because he was the one who got rid of it after naming it anf playing with it and then lying. I think kids would come first because you will always have your kids no matter what but boyfriends will come and go. and your kids will always love you
Hope you get through this! Im sorry you have to be in this situation
2006-12-28 05:19:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of this is going to take longer than in basic terms a month, my grandma had a canines for a whilst and then have been given herself a domestic dog. the only difference is that the domestic dog messed with the older one with the aid of fact the canines replaced into blind. besides, they messed around consistently...it incredibly is in simple terms taking part in. I say supply it some time with the aid of fact in case you think of approximately it, it incredibly is in basic terms been a month. they're going to get alongside faster or later. with any luck. Lol.
2016-10-06 03:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by wichern 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you kind of lost me in the end there, but that was extreamly wrong of him. he told you you could get another dog, so what if it wasnt a puppy? he had no right to get rid of it without your knowledge. who was it licensed to?
did he give it to his mother? that was really messed up if he did. i say get rid of that guy, he is controling and thats not good.
2006-12-28 05:38:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋