ok well im 14 so is my boyfreind and we have been together for about a year and weve talked alot about doing the nasty thing but im not sure beacuse of my age so what should i do?
2006-12-28 05:00:33 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You answered mine so i'm going to answer yours. i am 15 i can relate to you i've been in that situation when i was with some one it's usually the guys that want to do it and the girls that refuse. but in this situation it was the other way around i just told her that if you really love me that much to go that far with me than you should love me enough to respect that i want to wait ubtil marraige.
2006-12-30 06:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell little pecker to keep his peeper inside the little box. Sex is only for the adults who can actually handle the responsibility that comes with it. Many young bucks nowadays think that simply because they want it and "everybody is doing it," which is a lie, they should do it, too. God created sex for a man and a woman to formalize their MARRIAGE relationship and to procreate (to have children). If you and your honey are not at least 26 and have a good paying career, not just a "job," then you have no business having ANY sex of any kind. If you do, you will soon find out, the hard way, why you are not supposed to do it before marriage. I'm sure that you do not want to be just a piece of butt on some guy's memory. What will you give your husband; used goods? If you ever became pregnant you will condem yourself to a life of poverty.
So, stand up for what's right and tell your "boyfriend" to stop watching the pornos and get with the program (education, money, and a wedding ring on your finger). This is reality and I'm sure that your mama would agree with me. After all, "there is nothing like the real thing, baby."
Mr M. on "open for details."
2006-12-28 05:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you aren't even comfortable enough to call it by its proper title then you certainly aren't ready to actually commit in such a way. If you have to second guess yourself or your actions, then maybe there is a reason for it, so think twice, three times or even ten times about it first. One other thing to think about, true there are ways of preventing these things from happening, but what if those methods fail? Do you really want to be a mother at 14? Have an STD that ruins your life when there is so much life ahead of you? I wouldn't just yet, try holding out for a few more years and if he doesn't agree then he just isn't the one you want to be with let alone sleep with.
Jonesy
2006-12-28 05:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jonesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a woman, I'm going to tell you what I would do. If you feel like YOU are ready to do the dew, then go for it. Only if YOU are doing it because YOU want to and not because HE wants to. Never let anyone force your hand to do anything. If you feel as though you are not ready then, sweetheart you are not ready. Sex is not about age. That is a stereotype. Sex is for two people who want to adventure to new endeavors physically. If you are ready and you want HIM to be the one, go for it. If you have the slightest feeling like it's wrong, then go withyour first instinct and do NOT do the nasty. If he doesn't comply with your wishes then he isn't worth anymore of your time. Find someone else and make sure HE is the ONE.
2006-12-28 05:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together a year, you and he must really love each other and for 365 or so days, you have figure out other way to express love, be together and have fun with each other. Sex will complicate it. Those 365 day he figure out how to love with WITHOUT sex. Once you have sex you will never have those days again. Your wonderful guy who waited for sex with you for 365 days is now going to spend every moment counting those 28 "women" days until you can do "the nasty thing" again. When we want to spend time with the guy we love, you're getting that time right now. Wait for it. Trust me, YOU are worth the wait!
2006-12-28 05:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Spleakie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie, even if you ask for advice an you may get a lot of different opinions on this but it has to be okay with you and only you. He may tell you he loves you and all of this lovely things, but think about your future husband and all of the things you may wnat to safe for him. Think of the feelings you may have afterwards. Will he stay with you and is he really the type of person you want to give this treasure to, because once it is gone you can never get it back!
So, if you decide to do it use proper protection and be safe!
2006-12-28 05:06:00 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyGurl Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14 years old. You have plenty of time to do it in your life. It can be overrated too. You dont have to do it to make him happy. Theres lots of things to do other than "the nasty thing" If you do decide to do it..be super safe!!! There can be many consequences.
2006-12-28 05:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait! It is a step that has alot of responsibility behind it. If you are asking all of us what to do chances are you are really not ready for this. Take your time, dont rush things, believe it or not you have your whole life ahead of you.
2006-12-28 05:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by MusicWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u are only 14, why ruion your reputation, and risk pregnancy and a std, for this, just to please a boy whom u probably won't even be interested in in a few years. wait till u are older, wait for the ring, why give yourself away so cheaply, as once he gets what he wants he will move on to someone else, keep it till u know this is the man your going to marry, as this young boy will not respect u after u do the dirty. wait to experience it with the man u marry, save it for someone u know your even going to be with, your just 14, and need to keep your reputation. once u do it, your talked about, looked upon as cheap and easy.
2006-12-28 05:12:40 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you already have your answer and it is no. I'm sorry, but you are way to young. You are not prepared for the consequences of having a physical relationship. If you really care about each other, you will wait.
2006-12-28 05:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by skygirl_21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋