My friend said that she saw him with another girl at the movies,and I dont think my boyfriend would do that,but,me and my friend were in an arguement when she told me this.And when I asked her why didnt she tell me when we werent fighting?And she said that she didnt want me to hate her.But,I dont get to see my boyfriend as much as I want to,and I dont know if he is doing this or not.what should i do?
2006-12-28 04:58:25 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cannot have an enduring relationship without trust. If you think your boyfriend is a rat, he probably is. If you think your friend just said it in the heat of the moment and then couldn't take it back without looking bad, well, she might have. You need to stop worrying about your friend and your man, you need to do what makes YOU happy. If you spend your life worrying about everyone and everything else, you will be a very unhappy person and you will have wasted your life with nothing to show for it. The sky is the limit, but only if you reach for the stars.
2006-12-28 05:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you bother dating a guy you don't get to see that much anyway? I'd rather be alone and happy doing stuff by myself than to be wanting someone all the time. I would worry about that part of it a little more. People say things they don't mean when they fight, so don't read too much into it. I'd say give her a chance to cool off from the fight and then try and talk about it again. If the story seems to hold true, then it probably is time to move one. True friends have your best intentions in heart, even if it hurts you to start with.
2006-12-28 13:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him. Tell him you know that you guys don't get to spend much time together and if it's causing a problem in the relationship. Ask him to be for real. Don't get mad or upset just have a talk. Whenever a guy and I start to get serious, I always lay it out for him. If there is ever a time when he or I feel things aren't working out and either one of us are tempted to cheat, just let the other know. Because it is better to break it off before the cheating begins then get hurt when it already happens. And don't always take your friends word for it. Seeing it's always believing.
2006-12-28 13:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by sassyali_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay attention to detail. Do u have any doubts that there might be possibly something between ur friend and ur man? OR was it just that she got upset and lied? Dont make ur move until ur well aware of what the issue consists of. Dont worry nothing can be hidden for a long time, Eventually wats going on will be revealed.
2006-12-28 13:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm it depends. how close are u to ur friend? is she the vindictive, jealous, or meddling type?
if i were u, i would sit back and watch my boyfriend's actions. there may be a reason why he is spending less time w/ you. do some experiments, try to surprise him, or ask him to hang out w/ u on random dates. if he acts strange, i would just say i heard from a friend they saw u at the movies w/ another girl. if he doesn't know how to answer, i would just break up w/ him on teh fact that i can't TRUST him, and he doesn't know how to make me feel safe and secure.
2006-12-28 13:04:24 · answer #5 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends and boyfriends are like oil and water. I think you should ask your boyfriend before you go pointing fingers, besides she told you when you all were fighting and not other wise, what kind of friend is that? Ditch her too!
Boyfrien- if you didnt see him do it, he didnt do it. If you have suspsions and think that he may have done it.... then check up on it. Do your own research.
be very careful though
2006-12-28 13:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by PrettyGurl Lindsey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friends are often jealous! If you were firghting and then she brought it up it was probably a lie. Ask your boyfriend about it and if he shows too much denial, stuttering, lack of eye contact, or trys kissing you to get your mind off of the question. He is lying too!
2006-12-28 13:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Care 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well there are many questions to be asked first. Is this a really good friend of yours? Maybe she didn't say anything so it wouldn't hurt your feelings, if she is a friend that you can count on and trust i would believe her, a nd dump the boyfriend. i don't know if this helped you or not, but i hope it did... :)
2006-12-28 13:03:48 · answer #8 · answered by dee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we say things in the heat of the moment that are on our minds, usually these things are true. i think you should atleast believe her somewhat. if your boyfriend has been acting different, this might give you some insight. why would she have to lie about that? you might think that she said it to make you mad but that might not be the case. check him out, ask her the time when she saw him, can you remember trying to contact him and he wouldnt answer?
2006-12-28 14:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to find out the truth from ur boyfriend. Maybe is a misunderstanding or something. So i think u should find out first before u make ur final choice.
2006-12-28 13:03:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋