I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months and i really fell in love with this man. And within the past 3 months (he lives with me) he has done nothing but spend hours on hours on the internet chatting with girls who he says is friends. And then late last night i walked out on him stripping on webcam for a girl. I have tried and tried to explain to this man that i feel he is disrespecting me and the relationship by doing this and he always says he can change but its not happening. I love him and would love for things to work but i am running out of options on trying to make things work. And i am so stressed and trying to get through college and concentrate on that but it just effects me in everything.. So do i leave him or does anyone have any ideas on what i should do please!!?
2006-12-28 04:56:27 · 28 answers · asked by ~sassy23~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well thank you for the input on my question.Guess sometimes when it comes to someone you love its easier to ignore it then deal with the pain of letting go. I found out afterwards of "talking /yelling" that it was actually another man not a girl which he figured that it would be ok cause in his mind he is not cheating if its with another man. But thanks for the input it did help in making some decisions for myself
2006-12-28 08:42:15 · update #1
he needs to get broken up with.. he is waaayyyy to combfortable with you right now, show him that you can leave him in a heartbeat, and hun that really is cheating... if he is stripping for other girls that is cheating, if he was looking up porn, thats totally fine thats not cheating, but he is stripping and "talking" to other girls... yeah thats a bad situation, he needs to know that you can leave him like he is nothing.
2006-12-28 05:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not commited. Start there. You need to ask yourself if you want to spend the rest of your life dealing with this. He will probably still do this when he's fourty. He won't change; he'll get better at hiding it, and he'll do it a little less. If this isn't the lifestyle you want at 40, make a change now. You might as well. 6 more months of heartbreak won't make anything better in the long run, and that's 6 months you can take to heal your aching heart and try to move on into a new life.
2006-12-28 05:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stripping in front of a webcam is a bit much. You deserve better.
I would dissolve the relationship. It's only been 6 months and not 6 years. Some things are just unacceptable. TOTALLY.
2006-12-28 05:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you may love you a lot, but if he is hurting you with all this junk he's been doing, then just LEAVE HIM and don't torture your heart any more than he already has. He's probably not going to stop what he's doing for you. I'm not trying to be mean, but if you've been dating for 6 months & half that time he's chatting with other girls, he's clearly not ready for commitment. Find someone better
2006-12-28 05:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he did constitutes cheating. Even though he did it over the Internet and not in person, he is nonetheless doing sexual acts with someone other than you, and that is not acceptable. What he did shows that he has the mindset to sleep around, and you don't need a guy like that. Ditch him, so he won't pollute your life. It's going to be hard, yes- but the energy you'll save can be better spent elsewhere(like in school).
2006-12-28 05:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him don't tell him your leaving don't awnser his calls and don't let him get ahold of you, if after a week or two or after you just can't take it any more and he's still trying to get ahold of you, well then he feels the same way you do, then all their is to do, is make sure he doesn't feel insecure and knows that you mean business and that he can trust you, if he trust you he won't feel the need to mess around behind your back, and as long as you make sure he's taken care of he'll return the favor, but again this is the hardest thing to do, but the harder it is usually the better it is, just don't make a habit of doing this cause done on a regular basis, leaving like that can lead to violent outbreaks
2006-12-28 05:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ronald P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious he is a small bit of a sex addict or an internet junkie. Internet sex is found to be reather erotic to many men because it is a safe sex and free of commitment. You may continue to try to get him to cease but it will be a hard battle. Kind of like trying to rehabilitate a heroin addict. Maybe not so serious but not far from it. Also, try pleasing him more in new sexual ways, hence minimizing his need for finding satisfatcion online. But remember, until he decides to meet a woman in person, they are just internet women. Still not right but not as bad.
Jonesy
2006-12-28 05:01:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jonesy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont always get a pos hpt the day of your missed period. If you had a late implanter, it may take a day or two. Id give it a few days and test again in the morning. and check the the sensativity of the test- some tests can detect lower levels like 25 and other test for 50 to 100. if youre using a cheap test, it may not pick it up for a week! get a good quality test why would you drink alot of water before the test? lol.
2016-03-28 22:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this internet feen, is now even getting in between ur education, which is ur priority, then there is a problem. ITs hard enough putting urself through school, living with someone, and dealing with that case of immaturity... U should sit down and talk to him one more time. Lest dont waste ur time, and move on.. TEach him a lesson, so how he reacts to it?
2006-12-28 05:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get this looser out of your life, Is it your house and your computer he is using to pick up and strip for other girls? Why are you doing this to yourself? kick the looser out IMMEDIATELY. so that you can get over him and focus on your studies. Otherwise you will just waste time and fail all your courses for someone who is not worth it, and will leave you as soon as he finds someone else without a backwards glance. Wise up. wake up. Be smart and move on,
Good luck
2006-12-28 05:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋