I dated one girl/woman from the age of 17 - 25 and we broke up about 4 years ago because of a silly fight over nothing. Anyway, she's married since and I forgot about her... Well, spent a few years trying to. Anyway, she's called a few times to have dinner and I've always told her that I thought it was a bad idea. Needless to say, we had dinner last night. Wasn;t much talking, she basically stared at me the entire time with a big smile and tears running down her face. We then went to a lounge where she basically sat next to me with her head on my shoulder and holding my hand for 4 hours. I don't know whether its' because I haven't fallen in love since we broke up or if its just her, but I never felt so at home in my life. Anyway, I told her I don't think it would be a good idea to see eachother again. I will not talk to a married woman. I just wanted to write this because I would never admit to anyone in real life that I'm still in love with her.
2006-12-28 04:54:51 · 38 answers · asked by iblockidiots 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I respect you for this. She obviously feels the same way about you. Give it time and see if she finds her way back to you single. But it is so great to hear that you have morals and values that you stand by. Wow! She is a lucky girl to have you loving her.
2006-12-28 05:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
it was nv been u fault that day (big fight, break up ) some time the faith had change the life of a man and woman. what would u do if turn back time , would u hav a big fight or just giv her a most juicy kiss so that she know u love her that much?
i believe the gal had been hurt and u r the 'shelter' 4 her. man, just between u n me , a married woman is some else 'property' if she keep on hang out with u we cannot guarantee what she felt so wish u all the best and keep a distance between u n her.try to met another gal so that u find new love and good luck.
2006-12-28 05:03:55 · answer #2 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never really asked a question, but I'm thinking you are wanting approval, though your head tells you it's wrong. Because she is married, it's a no-no to see her...one thing leads to another and the next thing you know, you are tangled in a "love triangle". The two of you broke up YEARS ago...keep heading forward towards a NEW relationship with someone else. She now has "baggage" that may be too hard for you to tote! Tell her you cannot see her again...maybe one day, ONCE SHE IS DIVORCED, she can call you and IF YOU are free/single, you can strike up a new relationship with her. I do NOT think NOW is a good time, though!
2006-12-28 05:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by ConcernedMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have a soul mate, you have a lifelong connection that is hard to let go of. You are wise to say that it is not a good idea to see each other again. If she is wanting to, she needs to make that decision and divorce her husband. Appears from what you said that she now sees what she had lost and maybe moved on too quickly. You guys were together for 9 years, that is a long time, you grew up together. Remaining friends is one thing, but the laying her head on your shoulder and holding hands is a little more than that and definitely crossing a line that shouldn't be crossed...not to mention the torment it must put on you. Good luck to you, I wish you the best.
2006-12-28 05:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by Peachz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too bad you had to break up over a silly fight. Maybe now you both will realize what can be missed by simple little fights. Unfortunately, she has moved on with her life and found and married a new man. You need to move on with yours and that will just take time. You will fall in love again just give it time. You are prolly right in not seeing her right now as there is too much emotion still going on with you both.
2006-12-28 05:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlaughter434 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this girls shoes befor. I dated this guy when I was in high school on and off we broke up because he wanted to party to much and come and go when he wanted mean while I met someone else and dated him 5 years me and my x kept in touch when we needed to I married in May and a few month befor the wedding I met up with this x and it hit me the reason we never worked he is not wiling to grow up! I miss him sometime, I think about him sometimes but I know I married the right man!
2006-12-28 05:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by annastacia_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously if she is doing these things with you there is something wrong with her current relationship. If she is happily married why would she be out holding hands with another man. Now if the circumstance do come up where there is something wrong and she wants to get back with you, you have to look at the situation at hand.
She is married but with you, if you two do get back together and you think nothing is wrong......she could be doing the same thing to you. You should get over her. I know that its hard because you still love her but she is not the right one for you
2006-12-28 05:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by sierra8152001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, that is really messed up but I guess she did that because she still loves you and no matter how you are always gonna have feelings for her, but now she is married she saw the stupid decision she made because for her to do that is because she still loves you but she regrets that she is married. She cried because she really wants you but she knows she is married so she can't do nothing about her. You are gonna love her for a long time unless you find somebody else. I f she loves you that much and she can't be with her husband she shouldn't be with him and maybe you guys can work something out and you guys to be happy, cause if she still have feelings for you as much as she shows then she really is not in love with her husband, well another option is to kill her husband, (just joking) Hope I helped you out.
2006-12-28 05:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a bit of a whack job to me! Don't be arrogant enough to believe that she wouldn't do the same thing to you that she is doing to her husband. She has insecurity issues, and was hoping for you to beg her to be with you so she could feel better about herself!
You are making the right decision by staying away from her. How long do you think the respect would last if you allowed yourself to be with her knowing she goes home to her husband every night?
It is ok to still be in love with her, allowing yourself to act on those feelings is something else entirely. Good luck!
2006-12-28 05:01:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run. Dear chap, you're obviously such a wonder fellow and she's a lovey girl and,,,,, just run. Don't say good bye.
I know you do't but imagine this.- You want to wake up in the morning and say to yourself, 'I'm a dirty home wrecker'?
Heck dude, I was 8 years married before all of those feelings of guilt disapeared after orgasm. [I'd been a male whore [when single] and slept with *all* women for many years]......
2006-12-28 05:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by smile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still has feelings for you, too. Maybe she's not happy with her current marriage, and is exploring the idea of leaving him and the idea of getting back together with you. She needed to see you first to make sure there were mutual feelings before she took it too seriously. If there are no kids from her marriage and she is truly unhappy, you shouldn't feel too bad about seeing her... nothing happened that you should feel bad for.
2006-12-28 05:02:22 · answer #11 · answered by laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋