A few months ago she cheated on me. We weren't broken up, but we were long distance and going through a rough time in our relationship. Recently we've been making amends and have been on excellent terms, but I have found myself suspicious of her to the point where I'll check her email to make sure she isn't going behind my back again. I need to trust her and I do but I can't find a way to make myself stop this bad habit of mine. I really don't want to have to tell her to change her password because then she'll know what I've been up to. How can I ease my mind and just stop being so suspicious of everything she does?
2006-12-28 04:52:51 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Until she proves to you that you can trust her again, you will always be suspicious. I am in the same boat. My wife had an affair and I found tons of emails in several accounts. I forgave as she promised to never talk to him again. I caught her talking to him and now am back to checking her emails.
You are better off moving on...once a cheater, always a cheater. Because of her cheating, you will never be able to trust her 100% again...maybe 99%, but there will always be doubt.
2006-12-28 04:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you trust her or you don't. If you go looking for trouble, you will find it. If you just go cold turkey and STOP snooping through her emails, you will get over it. That's an invasion of privacy. I think I would slam your fingers in the freezer door. Learning to trust her again, means NO MORE reading the emails.
2006-12-28 04:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by TracyBee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I check my partner e-mails, but he knows that I do this and sometimes asks me to see if there is any e-mails from his sons or daughter, However, I am a very suspicious person, and with him I have every reason to be. so I look in on his e-mails sometimes while telling him I have not read them.
If you can get away with it. Don't stop. At least you will surely know if something is up.
2006-12-28 04:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a difficult thing to re-gain once it's broken, but you have to be willing top give her a real chance to change. If you went back with her believing that it could work out, allow it to. If you look for a reason to doubt her, YOU WILL FIND IT. You have to play fair, too.
2006-12-28 05:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 03:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just quit doing it...or be honest with her and tell her what uve been doing and aske her to change it and well then she wont trust u with the new password cause u already invaded her privacy...and if u cannot learn to trust her again then maybe u2 need to split cause all it will do is cause problems later
good luck
2006-12-28 05:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by mshoochie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya know, she cheated on you once...she has to earn that trust back! you shouldn't snoop, but if you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend, then, you have a right to wonder if she cheating on you agian. don't snoop anymore, maybe talk to her.
but you can't just trust her right after she cheated on you, her fault. she has to earn the trust back.
2006-12-28 05:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by ThinkPink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her to change her password because you got some kind of spyware you just got rid of on your computer.
2006-12-28 04:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her! If you don't trust her now you will never trust her. This is not a mind game you are playing it is your heart
2006-12-28 04:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just 2 things:
1.- Doubts, offends ... and
2.- invation of privacy ....hum hum ...
You are doing wrong .. that is "sick". Stop.
You can't go on with suspicious mind.
2006-12-28 04:59:23 · answer #10 · answered by NA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋