Ok heres the thing my boyfriends ex girlfriend were once promised to get married but then I come along and i "steal"(her words) him from her. Well this was like 2 years ago and now today she still calls him and guilts him into talking with her or even being friends with her. She will find us playing pool somewhere (she calls a friend and asks if they know where we are) and she will say like "hey i didn't know you were here" then flirt with my boyfriend all night trying to get him to hug her but when she hugs him he pushes her away he has asked her to leave us alone and she is like obsessed with him. Well her mother just recently passed away and she wants him to go with her out of state and be with her for the fuineral and she is useing the guilt trips again i think he might go what should i do if he does? I don't have the money to fly out there and her family will be paying for him to go. I know in the past two years she has gotten her way when she reminds him of the baby she lost.
2006-12-28 04:51:41 · 10 answers · asked by haterage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that it really pisses you off that he's falling into her traps.
If your boyfriend and you are really that annoyed by her stalker-like antics, go to the police, get a police report for harassment and get a restraining order.
2006-12-28 04:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is tell him EXACTLY how you feel and it's all up to him. If he loves you then it shouldn't be a problem. He is choosing to hug her, talks to her her, etc. If he feels the same as you (that she's just obsessed) then he needs to sit her down and tell her to leave you guys alone. He needs to be very clear that he doesn't have any type of feelings for her and it's in their best interest if they were not even friends. Things happen in life, she's just trying to hold onto him because she hasn't resolved her own issues and probably thinks things would be better if they were back together. Out of respect for the family maybe he should go the funeral, but like I said if he loves you then nothing is going to happen while he is there. If you love him, you need to trust him. Things like this only make your relationship stronger. If he is unwilling to compromise, maybe it's just not meant to be.
2006-12-28 05:00:10 · answer #2 · answered by sassyali_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The cause why your female friend isn't telling her ex to again off could be considering, she still loves him or has feelings for him...... And if that's the case, then i might say end the connection now before your heart is damaged. If she particularly loves you with all her coronary heart, she would take a stand, far-off herself from her ex and exhibit with her actions that you are the person she desires to be with, loves and cares about. Your female friend is a part of the drawback too considering the fact that, her ex would not be equipped to inform her such matters if she failed to allow him too. As a substitute of blaming everything on the ex, as yourself why is it that you just girlfriend continues to companion with this guy.
2016-08-10 04:11:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about all of your concerns and feelings on this issue. Also ask him why he would go? He is no longer a part of that family or life so he really shouldn't be going with them paying. Seems a little rude to me.
2006-12-28 04:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you he won't go. If he really wants her to go away then he needs to tell her that. If she still doesn't listen it's considered stalking and he can get a restraining order. If I were him I'd say, "If you don't leave us along I WILL get a restraining order against you."
2006-12-28 04:55:13 · answer #5 · answered by albion53151 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he honestly falls for her tricks and hasn't tried to do anything to keep her away from both of you, then consider that maybe he still has feelings for her. He can't have his cake and eat it, too. He needs to really decide what he wants or you should walk.
2006-12-28 04:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by aimeelopez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs to lose communication w/ her..is he gonna attend to her every need in life?? she is not being fair. She is trying to get her foot in the door anyway she can so don't let your guard down.
2006-12-28 04:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he goes, leave him. She is his EX for crying out loud and he shouldn't even consider going with her!
2006-12-28 04:54:20 · answer #8 · answered by Gary G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea she is coming between you too. sit and talk with him, thats the best way to resolve that and tell him how you feel
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2006-12-28 04:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by brillohead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him its you or her.period.
2006-12-28 04:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋