I knew i shouldn't have gotten another dog we have 3 old ones but this chihuahua was so small and cute, the kids said they would do more chores as kids would say!
We had the pup for 3 weeks, kids went on christmas break with their dad, my bf and i got into an argument
So my bf took the puppy from me and gave it to his mother who gave it to someone else
And is now saying she can't get it back they spent 300. bux on the pup saying it was sick,...which is BS! now my kids hate my bf and do not want to stay with him at his house Now i have to choose him or my kids all because he took their pup and gave it away while they were not home
The kids had to come home after christmas asking where their pup was and the bf lied to me and the kids it wasn't until days later we got the truth HE gave it to his mom to give away Should he have done that Should i stay with him Should the KIDS BE MAD AND HATE HIM? BF says i'm a bad parent for not telling them to stop throwing fits 4 pup
2006-12-28 04:47:40 · 16 answers · asked by Majenta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are living in his house - there are already 3 dogs,
your kids, who seem to be spoiled, and you worry
about a little puppy, that is probably better off with
another family. Get your priorities in order.
Your boyfriend is trying to keep his sanity.
Explain to your children that they can't have
everything. They have no reason to be mad or hate
your boyfriend - how old are your kids?
Support your boyfriend in his decisions - otherwise
your kids will drive you two apart!
2006-12-28 05:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems to me there were more mistakes made here other than him giving the puppy away. first and for most you should have talked this over with him before just bringing home a new puppy regardless of how cute it was. you said that he lied to you for days about where this puppy was, what difference did it make where it was the fact is it was not there. now,i cant say that i blame your kids for being mad at him, but you need to step up to the plate with your kids and share some of the blame for not talking to him about it in the first place. your a couple and things like this need to be agreed upon first. now as for you deciding to be with your boyfriend or your kids. i really don't think that a decision like this should be made all over a puppy. talk to him see if there is something that you can work out that will make everyone happy.and that does not mean he should have to give in about a puppy just to make things right for your kids.also talk to your kids and tell them {if you and he agree} that maybe when there are not so many other dogs in the house you can get a new puppy. i would not break up the relationship over this.
2006-12-28 05:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by here to help 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if its your house, then i'd say he was wrong to give the puppy away. (if it was his, then you probably should have talked to him first about bringing another dog in) you paid for it and it was a gift to your children. they seemed like they were excited about it, and it wasn't his place to take it and give it to someone else. i think that you two need to sit down and figure something out to where the kids won't hate him. if he's a serious boyfriend that you think might be the one, then i wouldn't get rid of him, but tell him that he does need to find a way to make it up to the kids, whether its getting the puppy back some way, or possibly finding a replacement.
i also don't think its fair that he took something that i'm sure you paid a lot of money for and just gave it to someone. you should talk to him about getting paid back for it if he can't get the dog back.
regardless of whether or not he's a serious boyfriend, this goes beyond just giving away a puppy that was your kids. he obviously doesn't have a problem doing things without talking them over with you, which is something that he's not going to change. just think about what's he'll do next without talking things over with you. most of all, follow your heart. your kids will always be your kids, but will this guy always be around?
2006-12-28 05:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by john_deeregirl07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they have a right to be angry and yes they have a righ to be upset.
What kind of Man would take from the children and not communicate with you and your children, about it first..
An argument caused this? Sounds like you have an extra child in the house.
Do you really need to think about this...Is it a really big choice.
Your children are yours forever. This Man sounds like he needs to go back to his Mom and finish growing up.
Look to your heart you already know the answer to this one.
Hugs those children and tell them that you love them! You are so sorry for his(your bf) actions. Tell them he was totally wrong and it shouldn't have happened that way. You don't want them to take this as a learning tool on how to treat their children later in life.
Best wishes
2006-12-28 05:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend punished you by taking something away from you,,is this how he deals with all grown up arguments? unless he knows what he did was wrong and spiteful AND makes the proper apologies to you and your children i would be worried about having this person in my life,,we all make mistakes BUT we also have a duty to acknowledge them and make amends,,he should have gone and got the puppy back as it is irrelevant what the new owner think,,the dog was not his to give away and if they refuse you can call the police for withholding your pet but really he should have faced what he has done,,embarrassment or no embarrassment.only you know what you are prepared to put up with and if behavior like this isnt it,,he needs to make a decision,,as do you,,,someone who is truly sorry does their best to sort the problem,,they do not shrug their shoulders and wait for it to blow over until the next time.
2006-12-28 05:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend. He's a loser and not worth your time. Your children should come first and another thing your not married to the man. It wasn't fair to your children what happened to their puppy.Your boyfriend sounds like he needs to grow up. It sounds like he is trying to punish them for something that they didn't do.It's bad when he lied to you.I have always choosen my children over their dad. I divorced him and finally was able to live a more normal life.
2006-12-28 05:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to choose between a man and your children. He is just a BF and nothing more. If he were your husband then it would be different. My opinion, children come first unless you are married.
The hierarchy runs like this:
God
Spouse
Children
Parents/Grandparents/Guardian
Siblings
2006-12-28 04:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah i agree wit that. like she said if he took it without ur permission then u know the drill. i would call the police or something if i wont get it back without u askin him. or e will be buyin another pup. either way works for me..but its unfair to those kids for him to be a jerk like that. and they most likely wont forgive him for that. so do what u have to...
2006-12-28 04:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~*leelee*~ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you BF is the ones with issues. Take care of what is to come. He could take your kids and get them out of picture. ????????????
2006-12-28 05:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by twentyeight7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend doesn't deserve you!
Your children shouldn't be living with a man who is not your husband, so move on and get your life together.
2006-12-28 05:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋