I am going through a break up with a guy i have been with for several years and i still love him how do i deal with that? I have been through break ups before but never like this.
2006-12-28 04:33:41 · 17 answers · asked by Krista H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A day, an hour, a minute at a time... :(
2006-12-28 04:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Louise Oriole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in a similar situation. it is very hard to go through a breakup with someone you truly cared about. I have come to the conclusion that if its meant to be, then it will be. Right now is just not the right time. You can't make someone want to be with you. Accepting it is the first step, and most times, takes the longest to accomplish. But after you accept the breakup as a BREAK-UP and not just a break, you can move on...
2006-12-28 04:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by texxxasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for whatever reason u guys broke up obviously you need to put it behind you. It's not easy but if you love him you will want him to be happy. When you break up for more than a day, run and far because if you stay or come back you will still find the same problem/s. You will only hurt yourself more if you "hang on" to these feelings.
2006-12-28 04:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by RoseFairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that is helping me with my break up is the fact that I realized we were totally two different people. I don't know your situation, however, to understand that not everyone is meant to be with everyone helps. Even though there is chemistry with two individuals, it still could be a situation where the two don't get along outside of certain situations. Also, was it ever love? Or was it lust? Get a mind that things happen and move on. You kinda have to put aside your "what ifs" and emotions. Hope this helps!
2006-12-28 04:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ive given this adivce before and it worked for them. so i hope it does the same for you.
1) surround yourself with friends and family. try to make them understnad to stay off the topic that deals with hte ex. just let yourself get over it without having to reflect.
2) keep busy. do anything. dont sit around and just be upset and sad.
3) be prepared that this will take you a long time. you love him. my first love took me one year to move on from and i still love him and a part of me will always love him. so know that just because you moved on doesnt mean you love im any less.
4) after awhile you need to be his friend. you need to have a truce. no matter if you love him because you always will. just be mature about it.
5) cry a lot. eat raw cookie dough and ice cream then get off your couch from watching The Notebook and get out there.
6) dont push yourself into another relationship until you are truely ready because its not fair to you or the other guy if you arent ready. to be with him.
7) GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-28 04:39:55 · answer #5 · answered by Niko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to keep as busy as possible. Don't let yourself be home alone alot or you will be even more devestated. Take this time to reinvent yourself with a makeover or rearrange your room or something. When I was going through it I dyed my hair purple just to say "im not the girl you left i'm new im hot and you were holding me back from the great men out there." It really does just take time though. Its normal to cry alot just relax as much as possible and take of yourself. You'll be ok hun.
2006-12-28 04:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by godscutie415 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It'll be difficult and it will be painful. If you don't let him go, you'll be miserable and will obsess about him to the point of insanity. It took me a long time to get over a man that I loved. You have to make a clean cut, no matter how much it hurts. Don't have any connections or interactions with him. That's the only way, in my opinion, to get over someone that you still really care about.
2006-12-28 04:38:43 · answer #7 · answered by AK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind busy, find things to do that are new to you, or things you never did with this person, that way you wont be reminded. Its hard but you will get over it, dont jump into another relationship right away because that is not the answer.
2006-12-28 04:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by ednaywilliams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to do this, especially when you are in love with that person. As women, I believe we love with our whole hearts, and when we give our hearts it is sincerely.
I went through a marriage breakup in this manner, and it was VERY difficult....but you have to go on with your life....
There will always be a special place in your heart for this person, but if he is not willing to continue there is nothing you can do......and you never want love that he does not want to give......trust me.
2006-12-28 04:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by mouse4211 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can ask him what the reason is and y he is braking up with you and tell him you can change that or just deal with it you are going to have to go through it in life you might as well get used to it
2006-12-28 04:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by Push Play for Jonas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is, it's damn hard. Over 4 years for me, I tried staying alone for three of them, then I started dating, then one day I found someone who loves me. I have finally gotten over him. Take your time, feel your pain, but keep living. surround yourself in good girlfriends and lots of laughs. Get sleep and take care of your health. Do you know that expression "time heals all wounds"? It is so true.
2006-12-28 04:38:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋