He spends too much time with them and all they do is drinking and talking. None of his friends have a steady relationship and i am afraid that he is just looking at them and not taking a risk to get into something special with me. I know he loves me but he keeps keeping himself away from me so he won't get too much involved. What should i do? How to make him understand that his friends are bad influence for him and that they don't worth to lose a relationship like this.
2006-12-28 04:20:50 · 19 answers · asked by blue5349 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is an old saying...it roughly says that to keep a thing, you must first let it go. Might be time to let go of this one, people do not change. He has his friends and his friends have habits you don't approve of. You have tried explaining your reasons, and clearly he isn't buying. Women who stay with men because they think they can change their men, usually end up alone. Good luck.
2006-12-28 04:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by teacupn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't i know it sucks but you just can't. He will just look at you as being controling if you try to get him away from his friends whether they're a bad influence or not. I guess the best way to look at alll of this is to just take a step back and let him go to you. Or simply ask if you and him can go see a movie or go out to dinner. Somethign to get him away with just you. As far as the friends being a bad influence they might be holding him back but if he really loves you than he'll get a wake up call some way or another. Don't let his friends control you're life too.
2006-12-28 04:29:35 · answer #2 · answered by sara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be crass, but there is an expression bros before ... well just take a guess.
The fact of the matter is that his friends have been there before you and will be there after you. You cannot dictate who somebody should or shouldn't be hanging out with, that is called control and will destroy any relationship.
He is his own person, he needs his own space you need to respect him and trust him enough to make his own decisions regarding his friends. If you want to spend more time with him that is fine, suggest activities you can do together. The moment you start asking he not hang out with his friends you are just setting yourself up for disappointment.
2006-12-28 06:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by smedrik 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BOYfriend sounds like an ******** and so dose your buddy, you sound type of youthful so il supply you suggestion to in good structure =P tell your buddy to diminish back the **** off and tell your boyfriend your going to leave him if he dosent commence respecting your emotions, on the right of the day i doubt hes the only your marry and performance youthful ones with besides the actual undeniable truth that it dosent experience that way now =) or in the journey that they convey on reduce them both off im particular you've were given more desirable friends if not make some new ones you do not opt to be dragging round those who carry you down!!!!
2016-10-16 22:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say you are very insecure. You said it yourself you are afraid first of all don't be afraid of anyone not doing what you want them to do. You are also controlling. Work on you and evaluate yourself. You cannot change a man and your not his mother try being his friend first then you will learn how to be much more accept him for him and not who you want him to be. Go find a man already what you would like him too be instead of trying to change this one. God bless you He is a grown man right
2006-12-28 04:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thinking he needs to change to make you happy then maybe you shouldn't be in this relationship. You may think you can change him but you can't. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship if all he wants to do is hang with his friends, there's nothing wrong with that. But if that's the case, you should either be ok with that or leave, sorry.
2006-12-28 04:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by wicky_busstop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything, just talk to him, and tell him that you wish you could spend more time with him. But never talk bad about his friends, because he'll probably tell them and next thing you know, he is not your boyfriend anymore...
Talk to him... if he doesn't listen, move on... You will never have the realtionship you want with a guy like this.
2006-12-28 04:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Latina Hottie! W.Chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. He'll just resent you for making him leave his friends. Tell him how you feel. Either he'll respond to you or ignore you. If he ignores you, he's not ready to be in a relationship and you need to move on. If he changes for you, then go with it. But don't expect too much.
2006-12-28 04:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by redrum42482 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you try NOT controlling him?
Maybe his spending so much time w/his friends should be a sign to you to back off.
Let him make his own choices. If he loves you, he will do the "special" thing with you, no matter his friends' lifestyles or opinions.
2006-12-28 04:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant or you will lose him it is not your place to tell him who he can spend time with you do you really want him there with you while he really just wants to be out with his friends he will resent you for it and start to hate you for him not having his friends when he is ready he will give you the attention you want and only when HE is ready if you are not willing to wait move on
2006-12-28 04:25:29 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋