My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. We plan on getting married within the next year but we were considering getting married at the court house so that I could be put on his health insurance plan. His health insurance is much better than the one I have at work and less expensive. We would still plan on having an actual wedding with a reception later on. Does this sound like a good idea or does anyone have suggestions?
2006-12-28 04:19:42 · 15 answers · asked by Heart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think it sounds like a good idea!
2006-12-28 04:22:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead, that sounds like a GREAT idea. You can save a lot of money for a bigger wedding a year or so down the road and renew vows!
And, Jenny, there is more involved than just living together for a year to be a common law marriage, as well as needing to be in a state where it is still recognized. Cohabitation alone does not amount to common law marriage; the couple in question must hold themselves out to the world to be husband and wife. (Look it up on wikipedia)
2006-12-28 09:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I really dislike the idea of having a courthouse wedding followed by a society one later on.
See, even if the first wedding is in the courthouse, it is still your wedding. It IS an actual, real wedding. I think that if you later have a society wedding, then you are sending the message that your first wedding, your "real" one, just wasn't good enough. I don't think that's a message that should ever be connected to your wedding or your marriage.
Either deal with your higher insurance rates until you can have the wedding you want, or have a wedding now. It doesn't have to be in a courthouse to be cheap. There are lots of ways that you can have a low-cost wedding now, and eliminate the need to have two weddings.
2006-12-28 04:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When you get married the "first" time, that is your wedding. If you choose to have it at a court house, that is what it is. Have a small dinner party at your home with family and close friends. Then don't do it over bigtime next year - that is just not right.
2006-12-28 10:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if u 2 are planing on getting married then go on and do it at the court house for your insurance perpuses./then when you 2 can find then time and money have a big beautiful wedding. just bewere some men will try to worm there way out of a big tado if they can.good luck 2 u.
2006-12-28 04:29:12 · answer #5 · answered by imsotayken 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Where does he work? His Health Insurance?
What kind of health insurance is he covered by?
Are you marrying the guy; or the County Health offices?
2006-12-28 04:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by d4d9er 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is bad manners and terrible etiquette to have one real wedding ceremony (THE FIRST ONE, not necessarily the fanciest one, is the REAL one) and one "re-enactment." You get one wedding per marriage. (Or, if you need to have one legal ceremony and one religious one, they should follow each other within days.)
It would also be ATROCIOUSLY rude to invite guests to a fake wedding and lie to them about what they are witnessing (a re-run).
Get married now if you need to, and send out wedding announcements immediately afterwards. If you want to celebrate more, have an anniversary banquet (as formal or not, as you wish) a year or two later, on your anniversary. But, not a "re-run" wedding ceremony. That is tacky. (Ask Miss Manners.)
2006-12-28 09:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what you want it is your life and your wedding. I got married by the justice of the peace at my step grandmothers house our marriage is still good it has nothing to do with the ceremony but with what you both feel for each other and do what matters to the both of you!
2006-12-28 05:11:46 · answer #8 · answered by prettybird 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are living together, and have been for over a year, you are already considered a "common law" spouse and can be placed as his "wife" on his insurance during an open enrollment period.
2006-12-28 06:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i feel if you and your fiance wants to do it that way u should go for it. i know me and my fiance are getting married at the court house also.
2007-01-01 03:55:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds great!~ Then you can have one year to plan and have a great wedding / reception to boot! Congrats!
2006-12-28 04:24:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋