If she dosnt want to come back after this then y marry me and want kids look at my other 2questions b4 u answe

Answer 1

Darren, I read your previous questions, and I don't know why. I wish that I did know so that I could really help you. You mentioned that her mother wouldn't forgive you, so it sounds like she is doing what her mother wants.

As hard as it may seem to do, perhaps you can just give her some space to think and breathe. She has a lot going on and pushing her will more than likely result in just pushing her further away.

Patience, kindness, and love on your part will go a long way.

Take care and best luck.
I hope that everything works out for you.

Answer 2

I hope you take the advice that most people have given you here, because apart from being the ONLY thing you can do, it is also the most sensible - you should leave her alone. She is coming to terms with pregnancy and all it entails and by the sounds of it, your marriage got off to a rocky start and she probably can't handle any more stress.

Do not crowd her, harrass her, or otherwise bother her - let her calm down and get used to the situation. Meantime, you should consider anger management (see your GP) and read up a little on pregnancy to help you understand what is happening to your wife.

In a month or so, you could try writing a note to her - no pleas, no promises - just ask her how things are going and let her know she is still a priority in your life. If she gets in touch with you again, you could try admitting your mistakes in the past and tell her you are trying to address your problems.

The main thing is, don't rush her, let her see you are consistent and reliable and will always be there for her whenever she is ready to come back. You should not move on as one or two others have suggested - there is a baby on the way and it is far too early to give up on your marriage.

One more thing - keep an eye on your own mental state and don't hesitate to talk to your GP if you think you may be depressed or in need of counselling.

I wish you both the best of luck and I am sure that with a bit of patience and a willingness to change, you two can find a way through this.

Answer 3

I'm not exactly sure, but it sounds like you and your NEW pregnant wife had an argument, and you lost control, then turned over a table in public? If this is the case then you probably freaked her out. Consider her point of view for a moment. She is pregnant with your child, and you result into uncontrolled violent rage. And you think it's her harmones? Although she loves you, she may fear you, and fear you being around your unborn child. She has to be able to feel safe and secure with you, especially since there is a child involved. She shouldn't (under any circumstances) have to fear you. Give her space. Give her time to sort out her feelings, and room to breathe. And if you do have anger issues, please seek some type of professional help such as anger management. This will better you as an individual, and it will also show her your desire and effort to change.

Answer 4

I took a look at your earlier questions & this bit jumped out at me:

"Everything was okuntill we had a terible row before we new she was pregnant i turned a table over in pub i have done eveything to change "

What was the terrible row about ? And why do you need to do every thing to change ? And what have you done that means her mother can never forgive you ?

If you have truly not done anything apart from turn over a table in a pub, it sounds like your mother-in-law is making trouble for you. This may be because she does not like you or because she did not like your display of temper (perhaps she has had bad experiences in the past with violent men & worries that you may be one ?).

Try writing, then get a mutual friend to talk to your wife & see if you can meet up.

Hope it all turns out for the best.

Answer 5

You are just in a lot of pain right now, give it time. I know you want to replace what you lost, but the last thing you want to do is turn to strangers.

You have to show her you have changed - which means changing. You did a very scary thing, when you love someone and they behave in a violent way it can be very terrifying. When a woman is pregnant, her first concern needs to be her baby and right now she is going through some serious emotional conflict.

She may come back but it could take awhile. in the mean time, you should see about your legal rights as a father.

Answer 6

Hi I have read all of your questions and I really think that you should stand back and let her breathe a bit,the more you contact her the more her parents will get involved.Have you been violent to her in the past if so then you will have blown it.If not then after her not hearing from you for a while she will get her feelings in order and come to you,don't push her oe you will push her away forever,send her a letter teling her you respect her wishes and that you will support her and the baby if she needs it,leave it at that and wait,it could be several weeks.

Answer 7

its prob just hormones i was such a bi#ch wen i was pregnant just let her no ur there for her then back off, if she doesn't come running back wen she's had time to think then there's something else in her mind she mind feel a little depressed maybe she thinks she'd be better on her own,dont go on at her her hormones are all over the place, is there more to this story? how are u generally as a couple? If you two are meant to be together u will be regardless of what her mother thinks of you, just give it time!

Answer 8

Pregnancy hormones have a lot to answer for!

The only thing you can do is be there for her is she needs you, are you sure there isnt another underlying cause?

If you both truly love each other then yes she will some back

Answer 9

Bless! id marry ricky if he became the right age, id experience perfect popular, even whilst i appear as if ive been hit with the aid of the back end of the bus with the worst hangover ever! superstar for you M`love x

Answer 10

she may love you, but is scared of her life and the baby's. Her parents probably confirmed her feelings. You need to give her time. You need to show her how sensitive and loving you can be. Part of it may be hormones.