i cant stop thinking of my ex i see him alot he still acts like he loves me but hes living with someone else and i cant go on with my life hes the only one i dont want to live without him i cant ive met othe guys but they dont intrest me like he does i love him so much and i wanna stop ive tried everything and i dont want to end my life cuz i cant have him and thats how i feel right now
2006-12-28 04:04:48 · 43 answers · asked by susette r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Immerse yourself in something that you love, whatever that may be. Reading, art, exercise, etc. Trust me, the old adage that "time heals all wounds" is true in this case. You will get over him. The only question is when.
2006-12-28 04:08:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Please do not do anything like that! He is not more impt than your own life. I would suggest getting help right now if you are feeling suicidal. This is not an emotion to be taken lightly. I am a survivor of a suicide which means that someone in my family killed himself and it was over a girl. I can not tell you how heartbreaking and life shattering his actions were. Nobody is worth taking your own life over. That is just a selfish act. Think of all the people that you leave behind and what it would do to their life. The many unanswered questions that will haunt them forever. I understand that you say you love this guy but first you must love yourself before you can really love anybody else. And if you are thinking of ending your own life, there is not much self love there. I have been in your situation before and I am so glad that I found strength from God to get me thru it. I am now more happier than I ever thought possible. When one door closes, another one opens. Try to see the good in your life and I know right now that is a hard task and you feel as if nothing is good without him. You must learn from this and move forward. Do not give up and do not think that by killing yourself you can prove your love to him cuz even if it did, it would do no good because you would be gone. Please, I urge you to seek help.
2006-12-28 04:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best suggestions to you are herbal remedies (kava kava and SAMe have helped me with strong depression) and visualization. To do the visualizations properly, I suggest you sit quietly for 3-5 minutes and clear your mind. Then create a clear picture in your mind of yourself - see yourself happy and smiling - and try to imagine that being you now. It may be hard at first, but it gets easier. Now see yourself confident and contented, all on your own. Feel how strong and satisfying that can be. The more real the image and the feelings you can create, the faster this will work. This is a great forgiveness technique, too. You can imagine anyone in your mind - and seeing them happy and peaceful helps you also.
It is hard when something wonderful ends, but it is easier if you can think of it as a new beginning. Maybe you could move to a new town or state if seeing him is that hard for you. Whatever you do, try to remember that the new is always greater than the old - so if the last guy was great, the next one will be terrific! Lastly, remember that happiness is a choice, and no matter what kind of relationships we are in, ultimately it is each of us that makes our own selves happy.
Peace!
2006-12-28 04:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PRAY! Do you not know that prayer and faith are very powerful? I don't know what you believe in but ending your life should never be an option. Do you have family that can help you through? Remember, you are the world to someone, maybe it isn't necessarily who you want it to be, but, someone loves you and I imagine a load of people would be scared to know you feel this way. Talk to a pastor or someone you trust. Don't think your life is not worth anything because of one guy. You are an awesome human being and someday you will realize that. Pray and I will be thinking of you. Have a good day, do something nice for yourself, like dress nice, put on makeup and go out for a walk.
2006-12-28 04:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is diferent. Some take longer to heal then others. Just remember that in time you will heal and move on. Only you will know when it is right.
I personally cry for a week or 2, stop eating (bad thing dont do it... ), what ever depression makes me do... then I pick my self up, talk to friends, go out, and move on. I am a quick healer. If I get my heart broken I try to find a way to hate the person... its easier to move on when you form distain. This is why I have only kept a distant friendship with only 2 people I have ever dated. Then I end up looking for someone else. Even if it doesnt last.... its something to make you forget. I also tend to change somethign about my self. Dye my hair, get a piercing or tattoo, wordrobe, jewlry... something to change me (it occupies my time so I am thinking more of that then of my recent heart break) I do something that I feel that I couldn't do when I was with that person. Like if I had blonde hair at the time I'd go red, or get a shirt I like but know they wouldn't, or get that tattoo I wanted to get but he wasn't all that fond of...because now I wouldn't have to care what that person fealt about it... its kind of liberating.
I mean dont do what I do... do what you need to do... but you asked what we do so I just told you. It will all get better
2006-12-28 04:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by xxkittenluvxx143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of yourself !
It makes no sense to be so sad over another person that you are thinking about ending it all.
You probably have depression and are basically wading in water up to your neck every day of your life, and the smallest wave is enough to make it seem like you are drowning. Take a walk back to the safety of the shore and enjoy the sunshine, out of the deep water. If you need help doing this, then get some help from a good psychologist.
2006-12-28 04:09:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hold yourself give yourself a hug and tell yourself that you are so worth much more. You let yourself believe that you are a great person and that there is some other person that is out there waiting for you. You allow yourself to mourn the relationship that has passed. You take good care of yourself and pamper yourself for the time being cause that is what you are in need of for the time being. Then you go out with friends when the time is right for you.
Its hard and It hurts and you will get over it
Time Heals all.
Sorry that you are feeling this way but take good care of YOU
2006-12-28 04:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well .....you r in a bad situation now i admit...but how did u break up with him the first time if u loved him so much? Well for now...u have to stay positive and hang in there because if u can have him once ...u can have him again...doesnt matter how hard it is...u have to keep trying in diiferent ways...and the girl he is now with might not b his future wife or anything....so dont get much upset with it...always communicate with him...and do the stuff he likes best...give him gifts in his birthday and Xmas... try meeting him after work...be nice 2 him.....always be positive and beleive that he will come back 2 u...it might take years.....just hang on there...hold his hands when u meet him....dont come 2 strong about ur feelings when u meet him...but casually slip in that the time u had with him was some of the best time of ur life...and in case if he breaks up with his currrent gf...while he is very weak about the break up...u will snoop in ...and become his gf.....and ofcourse in this a good dinner and great sex is always a great help! Good luck! and DO NOT Give up :)))
2006-12-28 04:22:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This deep seeded ache and pain your feeling is totally normal, and I am experiencing it to. It totally consumes your every thought and just getting out of bed seems like a chore. What you feel for him is real and true. Allow yourself to feel this pain and all that goes along with it. This is going to sound so cliche, but just give it time! Don't go out with anymore guys until you really feel totally ready to move on. As you already know, no guy that you go out with until you reach that point just are not going to be able to hold a candle to your ex. Take this time apart from him to really look at yourself and your situation. Look at all the positive things that you got out of this relationship and that your gave to the relationship. Take all the bad things that happened, because obviously there were for he wouldn't be an ex if there weren't, and learn from them and grow. It's going to be a rough next month or so, but please trust me, you will begin to actually feel better! It looks impossible right now because your hurting so much, but this soon to shall pass! I promise......
Don't hurt yourself. This is just a bump in the road and if you focus on what is really important here, which is getting through this intense pain, you will heal. Take care.....
2006-12-28 04:17:44 · answer #9 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard and I know the feeling. The easiest thing to do is completely break it off, stop seeing him, talking to him and calling him. It will be hard and will cause a lot of tears but it is the best in the end. Also try reading Greg Behrendt's "He's Just Not That Into You." It helps get a different perspective on things.
2006-12-28 04:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by brandeeteer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie... Obviously he wasn't worth it if he didn't value you the way you deserve...
No man is ever worth ending your life... Sure you might not have the love you want from him... You love him with all your heart you say? How about channeling some of t hat love you have for him towards yourself & see what a great person you are...
Perhaps you should try a crisis hotline or even calling a supportive family member...
2006-12-28 04:08:12 · answer #11 · answered by I wanna have a midget :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋