We're both passionate about each other and everytime we start kissing and touching he starts asking me for sex. I am a virgin and don't want to give it away without any feelings or somtimes. I want him to wait and respect that and want him to love me for who i am not what i will give him. It seems like he likes the fact about my condition but at the same time i guess he never had anybody who would make him to wait. I don't want to lose him for such a stupid thing but it feels like he understands it in a different way. He keeps saying that i am keeping it for somebody else and keeps saying that god knows what is going to happen later on and he want to love me now since i am his now. Please guys i need your advice in this. how to treat him and how to make him understand me and accept me the way i am.
2006-12-28 03:48:01 · 7 answers · asked by blue5349 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are not ready then you are not ready and he needs to respect that. If he leaves you for this then he wasn't worth giving it to anyway.
In my opinion a good way to keep a man interested is by keeping a few secrets to yourself. Don't tell him everything there is to know about you. keep him guessing and it will keep him intrigued.
2006-12-28 03:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that he like your 'condition' as u put it should be enough incentive to keep it that way. typical male, he is aroused by the opportunity to be the first one 'to score', but is afraid that the relationship may not last so he's putting the pressure on.
if he's not willing to wait until you are ready, then he's not worth the honor of being the one to receive such a precious gift!!!
you can fall in love again but you can not be a virgin again. think long and hard before you do something you regret. you sound like someone who knows what she wants and don't want so don't let him manipulate you into doing this.
losing your virginity is not a stupid thing, it has cemented relationships and it has destroyed relationships. it's also not just about your virginity, it's also the question of sex in general- are you ready for such a commitment, is he?
2006-12-28 03:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's playing you. If he really respected you he would abide by your wishes, it's as easy as that. Your a conquest to him and I'd bet he would drop you like yesterdays news as soon as he beds you or shorty therafter. Stick to your guns dear, sex is nothing to take lightly and should be preserved for the right time. If you do not feel comfortable or it is the right time then go accordingly. NEVER NEVER let some hardd**k talk you into something you don't want to do.
2006-12-28 03:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really understand where your coming from because im a virgin to but i want to wait till marriage. well what you should do is tell him that you care about him and you respect that hes a man and he wants sex now but sex is a two person thing and if he cared about you then he would wait until you feel for him the way you want to when you have sex for the first time. and i know it would be hard but if he tries to pressure you into anything that you dont want to do then you tell him that if he cared about you that he would wait and all that stuff about him saying that your saving it for someone else tell him yes im saving it for the right person that could be you nobody knows but you will know when you find him and he can love you while your his but if he really wanted to love you he would love and not just excuse the fact that you want to wait. please whatever you do if he threatens to leave you because you wont give it up let him leave because obviously he wasnt the person who was supposed to take your virginity.
2006-12-28 04:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He isn't right for you.
You aren't ready for sex, don't give it up. It's that simple. If he can't accept that, he needs to stop bugging you about it.
If he said "...God knows what's going to happen later..." then he should understand that you wouldn't want to disappoint God. ;)
Pretty funny...It's not often a guy throws in the God card when begging for sex.
2006-12-28 03:53:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think saving until your married is dumb, but giving it up really depends on age. as a father of 2 girls i wanted to remain virgins until at least thru highschool and even thru early college. but after that you should be able to meet a man who is mature enough not to dump you if you have sex with him.
2006-12-28 03:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by stilg 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You could give him a lapdance.
2006-12-28 03:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u give it away to him he will walk away then becuz he got wat he wants, all gurls regret it when they loose it before marrige, careful gurl
2006-12-28 03:52:10 · answer #8 · answered by simply_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋