2006-12-28 03:48:00 · 20 answers · asked by Rachael S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, the truth always hurts.
2006-12-28 03:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chica Creole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question would be no, especially if you have known this man you are referring to for a while, sometimes what he does not know can hurt whatever kind of relationship you have and cause more problems then you want to deal with. If you tell your male companion that you have had many partners he might be angry at first but if he is an understanding person then you should not have too many problems, if not then you know you should have not kept that back from him. I am sure that you mean well but if you want the relationship between you and him to go further then you are going to have to learn to be honest or you will have a hard time keeping a man. He may recommend that you get test for any diseases or STD's, if you are to have anything between you and him. There are lots of people out there that have multiple partners and don't get tested. So do yourself and him a favor and start telling him what is going on and hope that he will accept it.
2006-12-28 12:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the first part of my answer is this, you should never lie to your partner about anything. Honesty is the key to a relationship. The second part of my answer is this, it isn't fair for him to ask you that question, it is in the past which is where it should stay. The only concern he should have is that you are clean and not carrying any type of virus. Explain to him that it isn't important how many people you have had sex with, and if he would like you to be tested for any type of disease you are more than happy to be, as long as he does as well. It is always a good idea to both be tested when you are starting a relationship. If he cares for you though, regardless of what your answer to him is....he will still be there.
2006-12-28 11:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha...yes!!! If you have had more than 2 lovers, then you are a slut. Its not my rule, but society and men are slanted. the sooner you realize this the better off you'll be.
Most guys have this "man on the moon" mentality. We think that we are the only ones on the moon, therefore, no one else has been here, so we are the 1st to plant the flag here. In reality, if we really knew how many flags were planted, let alone whose flags and how big some of the flags are, most of us would faint from stark realization that 'we are not alone'!
Having more partners than he thinks does not change who your are, but it does change his perception of who you are. You would think if he loves you, and then finds out new information, he would still love you, but then he'd have to re-evaluate who the person is that he loves and then whether or not he loves this new person. Even though you'd still be the same person.
Some guys get it. We are realistic and really don't care. I'm sorry to say that we are a minority. he has a swagger and confidence because he probably thinks that he's had more experience than you do. If that's not the case, then you will more than shatter his bubble.
Plus guys count every girl they ever had a chance with in their experience roster. Girls don't count the guy you met when you were drunk. he doesn't count cause I didn't really know him. we were just fooling around. That counts to guys! We count that fat drunking slob we met and had to get drunk to be with. She counts on the guy roster.
Just ask him how many guys does a girl need to be with to be a slut. If his number is less than your actually number, tell him that your girlfriend is a slut and you were telling her that, but you needed his opinion. Then tell him you had two guys or that you only did anything with two of them. You'll both be happier in the long run.
2006-12-28 11:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can lie, it`s fine if you don`t want a permanent relationship. You only have to answer to God.. However, when old what`s his face meets the new fellow. If he says " Hey babe, I miss you when you coming over? I`d like to continue where we left off! With a pat on your posterior. I guess that would easily be covered up with another lie. Before you know it you`ll have a snowball of lies that can become an avalanche. Guess where the avalanche will land?
2006-12-28 11:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Starr H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's never ok to lie. You shouldn't have to tell him how many partners you've had. You have each other now, that should be just fine.
2006-12-28 11:59:33 · answer #6 · answered by ♥DRV♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not fair to him to be lied to. You should him the truth and if he still loves you for you despite how many partners you have had then he will stay with you. So tell him.
2006-12-28 11:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by smores 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because if you lie, that's building your foundation on that lie, not good. Plus if you end up running into someone who you slept with who you didn't own up to it can turn sticky.
2006-12-28 11:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by diasia9622 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should be honest about the fact that you can't form stable realtionships so he knows the two of you probably won't last, either. Then he can decide if that's what he wants.
2006-12-28 11:56:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why lie ? Just dont answer the question. Its none of his business.
2006-12-28 11:51:51 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋