My boyfriend and I have had an amazing sex life. Most of the time when we have sex, it's incredible. But, lately, it is becoming more and more common for him to not be able to have an orgasm. It's not that he can't "get it up," he just can't "finish." Is this common? I've never had this happen with any other guy before, and I'm already very self-conscious about myself and my body, but he insists that it has nothing to do with me. Any advice??
2006-12-28 03:40:11 · 20 answers · asked by dmh1973 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO i dont think it has nothing to do with u . That happened to me. The thing that was affecting me is that i was having sex, while i was exhausted straight out of work. Or had some issues to think about . U women are beautiful in everyway, and i know u go over boundaries to please us,, and u do hell of a good job.! talk to him.
2006-12-28 03:43:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is arouse then that means that hes into the act. finishing is another issue, with him, not you. He may watch too much porno, he may not be sensitive enough down there. he could be doing things to himself too often?! Who knows. It is ultimately a mental block on his part. Try talking dirty to him. he needs to be pushed to his sexual arousal limit. Guys are not all physical sometimes. There is a mental aspect. If he can't explain it to you, then you may have to do some research. watch some porno together to see what it is he's not saying. Don't rush him or make him feel that he needs to finish either. there could also be a physical problem. Make sure he goes to the bathroom before sex or he could see a doctor. How old is he? He could have an enlarged prostate that is preventing him from getting the full effect of your actions. There are a few execises that you can do to strengthen your muscles so that you can give more pressure during the act. IF that still doesn't help then he has to deal with his own issue. He may need to see a doctor. He won't die, but then is he really living?!?!
2006-12-28 03:48:38 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not working it right. he is bored with you. when it was new it was all good but now you are just old to him and it seems like a chore. do something nice for him to make him get off. let him stick it in other places as well. You know what I mean. If you want to pleasure your man you have to make the brown eye sacrifice. Plus look at yourself in the mirror. have you put on a few pounds since you guys have been together? You might want to do something about that if you have. Also invite another girl in the bedroom. do a show for him with the other girl. Tell him to have sex with the other girl while you are watching. this will make him hot and he will give it to you good and finish as long as you keep the relationship spicy.
2006-12-28 03:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by SuperSoldierGIJOE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with you. There can be many reasons. Just be kind and patient and whatever you do - do not make a big issue out of it because this might damage him psychologically for life. Be understanding and loving.
Emotional - It could be a control issue, by not finishing - he feels in control of his emotions and/or the relationship.
Stress/Physical - It could be due to stress or work related issues. (stressed out or tired)
Drug Related - It could be because he might be on medication that you are not aware of.
Pregnancy Fears - He might be afraid of getting you pregnant.
2006-12-28 03:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Orion777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After I have had between 6-7 orgasms in one night, I can still get it up, but can't finish. Another reason could be drugs, crystal and heroin both have that effect on some people.
2006-12-28 03:45:08 · answer #5 · answered by white.devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what that is exactly what's happening to my BF. He gives me several orgasms by going down on me. But no matter what I do, he is loses interest in sex. I finally figured out how to get him interested again. We talk about fantasies. I learned his favorite is having a romp with another couple. This gets him going and he starts hammering away.
2006-12-28 03:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably had alot on his mind. I had that problem before. When I was in Hong Kong, I met this girl. Last week before my trip, I was depressed about going back to Canada. When I had sex, I wasn't able to "finish" it. I just stopped. I had alot on my mind and pressure. I am sure he could be the same thing too.
2006-12-28 03:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, intercourse would not continuously end after one 12 months, it reduces over a protracted term. So in some unspecified time interior the destiny in time the guy has to weigh his thoughts and settle on while to get out. the biggest subject in marriage is while teenagers are in touch. the guy no longer in basic terms has to chop up subject-loose sources, yet additionally pay for the toddlers. No win difficulty. till the gamble works out an the guy and woman surely paintings all issues out and, no longer fairy tale land, stay fortunately ever after.
2016-10-19 02:19:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has NOTHING to do with you. Was he drinking prior to having sex... alocohol or other medicines can make this happen. Also, did he... take care of himself earlier in the day? If so, that could be another reason. But really... Its not you. I promise. Good luck
2006-12-28 03:43:07 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you at all. He might just be having a bad day or have something on his mind. Try talking about what may be worring him before you have sex and then try. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-28 03:48:07 · answer #10 · answered by smores 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋