He never initiates sex, I do. I am always on top doing the work. It's killing my ego and my drive. Xmas was a fiasco. I spent so much time and effort to get just the right thing. He had my list, but chose not to use it. He asked if I wanted iPod accessories and I said no but he got one anyway. This hurts because it said to me that he didn't care enough to listen. My sister came to town for xmas and he was really stoked (she's the only one he likes, ha ha). But when my sister and I came home to hang out as planned, the house was a complete mess, nothing was set out for dinner, he was glued to the tv, and he barely acknowledged her presence. He had been off work since 2 p.m. and now it was 6:30 pm. He could have helped out a little bit. Final straw-last night. I held out for dinner even though I was starving-well he wasn't waiting for me even though he knew i was on my way home, he was eating when i walked in the door and it pissed me off. I feel like he just thinks about himself.
2006-12-28 03:34:32 · 6 answers · asked by vonhartleben 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop doing things for him. Don't enable him to be the way he is. I'm sure you're a nice person and you seem like a pleaser and a giver. He's a taker. It rarely works out between this type of combination.
2006-12-28 03:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by searaydreams 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break. You need some time to yourself and he needs some time to ponder if he really wants to invest himself in this relationship. Maybe it's a one-sided relationship. Maybe he's just getting through a hard time. Being alone should help him speak up his mind.
2006-12-28 03:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure we aren't married to the same man? :) I completely understand. That sounds just like my husband. It is so frustrating! I've tried talking to my husband about what he does and how it makes me feel. So far, not a lot of success, but I'm still going to try. Good luck!
2006-12-28 03:42:13 · answer #3 · answered by angels_sign_ily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should really sit down and talk to him. Tell him wats bothering u. Communication , is the key, It looks like ur indeed being underappreciated, i think hes taking u for granted.
2006-12-28 03:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start thinking about yourself and don't initiate sex. Make him notice your behavior and see if he reacts.
This is not a recipe, you have to adapt and study his behavior.
2006-12-28 03:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Verbatim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes im sorry he is taking you for granted --- he needs a dose of reality --- sit him down and let him know your concerns --- if he does not listen to you then you need to consider other options
2006-12-28 03:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋