2006-12-28 03:23:58 · 42 answers · asked by Douglas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you should call her because if you dont you will always think about what would have happened and what would have been said...plus you are talking about marriage here when you took those vows you made a promise to each other to commit and he is breaking that. You as his wife have a natural right to know what exactly your husband is telling this other woman. She has no place in your lives but he put her there and he did it and betrayed you. You are gonna want to know how long, if she knew, what all they did together, if they spent quality time or if it was just sexual. Those are questions that she can answer and ones that he probably wont. It gives you a better understanding of the situation. But (giving some advice because I have been in a very similiar situation) after you do call her confront him with the evidence and bounce....leave it alone...because once a cheater always a cheater
2006-12-28 03:53:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you with someone who has cheated on you more than once. This man obviously doesn't value the marriage or you. Leave his a**.
And don't call the other woman. That is the one mistake most women make. The problem you have is with your husband not with the other woman. I'm sure she has no idea that the person she is with is even married.
What you need to do is confront your husband tell him what you know and leave. Divorce him. All the head aches and heart aches are worth it.
If he truly cared he would be right by your side and not in the arms of another woman.
2006-12-28 03:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't call. Unless you plan on getting a divorce - DO not call. The only thing that will happen is your husband will get mad at you for trying to ruin his relationship with the other woman. If you want to work it out, confront him. If you call his other woman he will only have more reason to believe he has the right to cheat on you. You need to move on with your life, before telling him what you know.
2006-12-28 04:05:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL FIRST OF ALL U NEED 2 DUMP UR HUSBAND BECAUSE HE MARRIED U AND THAT IS TIL DEATH DO U PART AND B THERE 4 U AND ALL THAT OTHER STUFF. HE HAS ALREADY MESSED UP HE IS NOT HUSBAND MATERIAL. HE HAS CHEATED ON U BE4 AND U THINK HE IS STILL DOING IT THEN Y WAIST UR TIME. DO U REALLY BELIEVE HE WILL CHANGE I DON'T THINK SO. AND IF U NEED CLOSURE THEN HELL YEAH CALL THAT OTHER WOMAN AND TELL HER EXACTLY WHO U R AND U WANT 2 KNOW WHAT HER RELATIONSHIP IS WITH UR HUSBAND. MAKE SURE THAT WHEN U CALL U R CALM AND NOT NASTY THAT WAY U CAN REALLY FIND OUT WHATS GOING ON.
2006-12-28 03:32:05 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person you should be calling is your husband. Yeah, the woman having an affair with your man is a skank, but there's a million reasons she might be sleeping with him...anywhere from she just doesn't care to she honestly doesn't know. Your husband on the other hand knows and should care.
In fact, call a lawyer if he continually cheats. Who needs him?
2006-12-28 03:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one. More than likely I would, she may not even know he is married. Take it from someone who dated a guy who was married and didn't know till the wife called.
And not for nothing you deserve better. If he is cheating on you he's the loser, tell her to keep him and move on with your life. And being that this is not the first time should say a lot. Don't stay for the kids because it will hurt them in the end. Be good to yourself and start a fresh new life without him
I'm sorry this has happened to you
2006-12-28 03:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater! Yes, call her. Just keep in mind that she may not know you exist and that your husband knew he was married and knew better than to get her number in the first place...he is the one to blame, not her. Have a cool, calm, no name calling, collected conversation with her and let her know that he is married and that you do exist and that he is not separated from you and that you understand that he is the one at fault. You can catch more flies with honey...and keep your friends close and your enemies closer...believe me, this woman is your enemy...she wants what you posses, so make her your best friend...
Best wishes to you.
2006-12-28 03:31:41 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - if its not the first time your husband cheated, guess what , it wont be his last...you gonna call every girl he cheats with...could get to be a long list of phone calls you will need to make...i would not call the other girl, just kick his butt to the curb...and move on...
2006-12-28 03:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, No, NO! Call your husband! He knew what he was doing and who he was doing it with. If the woman knew he was married, shame on her and believe me she will get what is coming to her. I believe in your heart you know what to do and what must be done. Don't keep taking your husband's crap, be a woman, there are men, good men out there that will respect you and treat you as the person you deserve to be treated as. Love yourself, no one else will love you more.
2006-12-28 03:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you settling for a man you betrays you? No, I wouldn't call the other woman, especially if this isn't the first time. I would pack up your husband's belongings and lock him out. Call a lawyer.
2006-12-28 03:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋