Is my girlfriend right ?

Question

I am 32, she is 22. We have a 16 month old little girl. She hasnt had many friends thoughout the pregnancy. She asked me if I would like to be friends with the pot dealer we get her pot from. She says if he were to be my friend that she would enjoy smoking up with him that they would have alot in common. I dont smoke pot. Point is she wants to get out more and have other people in her life and I should be secure with myself and know that she wants to be with me.

Answer 1

I think your child needs to keep at least one parent who doesnt smoke pot - so no I think she is wrong.

Answer 2

Well, clearly she is not a mature 22 year old. I would venture to say that hanging out with a pot dealer is probably not a good idea under ANY circumstances and particularly not when you have a 16 month old child. Encourage her to go and take some classes at your local community college. It would be good for her to have friends outside of the relationship, and she can find friends who are good for her with common interests, but if she is particularly stuck on this guy I am guessing that there is more than just "having a lot in common" going on there, but some serious attraction as well. Put your foot down on that one. And if you would even contemplate smoking pot around your child you are both UNFIT parents. Shame on you!

Answer 3

Smoking pot isn't necessarily terrible, but when you have a child to take care of, esp. a 16 month old, you shouldn't be spending your money on it. My fiance and I have a five month old little girl, and neither one of us have smoked up in a long time. She's wrong and I would try to convince her that your little girl is sooooo much more important than a buzz. My fiance gave it up, and he was the biggest pot head I've met, so if he can do it and still be happy, then your girlfriend can too. Get a babysitter for a couple of hours and take her out and just have fun. Trust me, it does help take your mind off things. Good luck and happy new year!

Answer 4

It sounds to me that your girlfriend is wrong and very inmature. She should not smoke pot b/c you both have a little girl that needs guidance and good role models. I understand that she wants to make friends, but she seems to just want to be close to her pot dealer for 1 thing (pot). You should introduce the idea of maybe quitting smoking pot and try going out to meet more people. She is looking in the wrong places. And she needs to get her priorities straight.

Answer 5

The girl is desperate for friends. Hanging out with the pot dealer wouldn't be good for your child if it is around that stuff. Her pot dealer must be her only friend. You can suggest going ot church to meet people. If you keep her locked up like this she will cheat on you and run away. she just needs some friends. Yes feel secure with yourself. Get her out of that house.

Answer 6

Very loaded question from your wife. Go with your instincts on this one, but I would suggest finding other things to do with other people. She may be right about getting out and doing more, but a pot dealer! The pot dealer is a business man and is, or should be, interested in only one thing, getting the money. Think this one through and through very carefully.

Answer 7

This could lead to a big train wreck. I used to smoke alot of pot but was never friends with the dealer I didn't have to be to just get it. I (only my personal opinion) think if this person won't to be friends with the dealer it could lead to harder drugs and you will be raising that child on your own. Put your children first! Drug dealers is not someone you want your child to grow up to know.

Answer 8

What worries me the most about your question is that she believes her only possible friend besides you is a pot dealer. Have you thought about doing something together? Going to an activity or even to a local bar to hang out and meet new people? When my fiance and I met he had friends and I had friends, but we didn't have friends together. Eventually our friends made it so that if we went out, we weren't all together. And while sometimes that's okay, when my mate and I go out with friends, we like them to be friends with both of us. So we started doing more things together away from home and have discovered that we've met many people (usually couples) at places that we would have never imagined. Our local pub, camping, the gym... find some activities that you two like to do together (possibly something you've never done before...) and you'll be surprised at how your relationship can bloom and you'll find new friends for both of you.

Answer 9

NO! Get her a Mary Kay freind or even the Avon Lady, ANYTHING but a pot dealer! He will ruin her life and your daughter's life. Maybe you should find her some church freinds or something, or even a group for former drug users. This will be a good support system for her. Please think of your daughter's safety. If the situation becomes too much, take your toddler and leave. Drugs are nothing to joke around with because innocent people are harmed in the process.
-Kiarra S.

Answer 10

why does she need to smoke pot and why does she need to be friends with her pot dealer? why doesn't she find something more legal and better for her to do with her life. like take up a hobby or go to church? I say that's a bad decision. She shouldn't need to hang with another guy. She needs to find girlfriends. I would have a serious problem with that. She needs to grow up, she decided to have a baby so maybe she should start acting like a MOM.

Answer 11

Then she needs to find female friends rather than male friends. People that you both have things in common with will surely be better that people she only has things in common with. Beware of the pot dealer...surely you comprehend that certain pleasures can be taken out in trade. Watch you back and try not to leave yourself vulnerable in this situation. No matter how secure you are in your relationship, there are always people out there with ulterior goals and motives.